Tips For Online Dating

Online Dating Positives

The advancements of modern technology has opened up many ways to make our lives better and easier. One thing that just did not exist at all in the past is the entire concept of online dating sites. In the entire history of human relationships, online dating sites represent an entirely new paradigm in the way that human beings find each other, and interact with each other.

Up until the last few years, your ability to connect with someone was usually limited to those people you would meet in your own social network. These include your job, your church, your school, your clubs, and your neighborhood. It is now possible to meet someone anywhere on the planet to interact with. The best part is that you can scan through thousands of possible people to see what, if anything, they have in common with you. And the dating systems' computers will help you with that process, thus saving you a ton of time.

Minuses of Online Dating

Online dating sites are not foolproof. One problem is that people say what they are looking for, but they really do not know exactly what they want. People are much better at saying what they do not want in a partner than they are in saying what they want. Even so, people will often end up falling for someone who has many characteristics that they say they would not touch with a ten foot pole. On top of all that, online dating sites are the victims of members who exaggerate about themselves a lot, or just plain lie. I mean, you may find that the sexy Christian church-going lady that you have been chatting up is actually a transvestite cross dresser who is into bondage and who makes a living as a call 'girl'! Men and women both tend to post younger and more flattering pictures of themselves before they gained 40 pounds, and had more hair. Point being, you never know if the person you are online with is being genuine. As well, the person you are considering as a partner may be married, and looking to cheat. You don’t want to be part of that. Better to be involved with someone being honest to you, as well as his or her significant other.

Another downside is the amount of people you’ll now have access to. It’s both a benefit and curse to have such a wide net to cast when online dating. How do you whittle it down to a few lucky ladies? Of course if you are like me you just need to search for "deaf, dumb, oversexed female who owns liquor store"!

Further Considerations When Online Dating

A name like THREEINCHTOOL is unlikely to gain you much positive attention after all. Choose something more classy. The next piece of advise is to slowly let out information about who you are and what you do. Let it take a few weeks, as opposed to trying to get it all out in one bloated email. Slowly let the other person get to know you, and vise-versa. It’s safer. Also, talk on the phone before you get together with someone. That will confirm a lot about them, and let you know if they’re genuine. Consider using a pay phone or throw away cell phone for the initial contacts.

Use a recent picture of yourself, preferably one of two types: having fun with friends (and clearly say which one is you) or one where you are looking thoughtful. Most women are not looking for a cassanova/prince charming type. They want someone nice that they can rely on. If you start off with a lie, you will lose their trust and ultimately they will move on. However, don’t make the profile picture too sexy. Keep in mind everyone on the dating site will be able to save anything you put up. Don’t complain about your ex, and remember to spread a wide net. It’s a numbers game, and you want to increase your odds by talking to as many possible connections as you can.

When you finally decide to meet in person, plan the time and venue of your first date carefully. One of the best things to do is to meet over coffee during the day. It is less threatening, and it lets you see her, and her see you, in full natural light. A full daylight date is also less threatening, and a coffee date will only have to last 30 minutes to an hour, so it is self limiting if you decide that you are not going to connect with this person. Second, if your date is not over coffee, set your phone alarm to go off a half hour into the date. That way, if it’s not going well, you can jet with an excuse. Do not be afraid to inform them that you are seeing other people. If you appear to commit too early, it sends out a bad vibe. On the other hand, make it look like you are not a Lothario.

If you have picked well, you have a strong chance of achieving instant chemistry, and potentially a lifetime of happiness. Bon Chance!