How To Stimulate an Orgasm in Women

In Victorian times, most adult females did not have orgasms. In fact, a lot of them did not understand what an orgasm was.  Many women were brought up with no sexual instruction, and sometimes with negative messages about their bodies, and their sexuality. Another study ending in 2005 found that one third of women did not (or seldom) orgasm, and just one tenth always achieved an orgasm. Many women have serious troubles having an orgasm. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is as frustrated as a man with an erectile disfunction.

So how can we change this, especially when most women now a days  want orgasms. Lets start by defining a female orgasm.  An orgasm in women is similar to that in men-there is a surge of emotion, in a moment of incredible enjoyment, and a pulsing, twitchy sensation that spreads out through the body.  The rhythmic contractions take place within the area of the pelvis also encompassing the vaginal walls. Another difference here is that women don't experience a refractory period, and will usually be able to have many orgasms with continued clitoral stimulation, often within a minute or two. In most women, there is no fluid ejaculated during orgasm.  Men need to understand this so that they do not feel they are under-performing if their partner does not ejaculate during an orgasm.

With the help of a skilled lover, most women can achieve multiple orgasms if they want.

Unlike men who can ejaculate quite quickly if they are being masturbated---women need the right conditions. For instance:

1) Women  must feel appreciated, and wanted a romantic atmosphere
3) A person they click with
4) Being at ease
5) The right degree if clitoral stimulation – not to rough, not too easy

You will unlikely simulate your female partner to orgasm without most of the previous conditions being met.

Men should understand that women generally have several variations of orgasms---the most common is orgasm of the clitoris.  The clitoris may be stimulated in a few ways, but the most common are oral stimulation or hand manipulation. The clitoral orgasm can have fluid expelled or be dry, and climaxes in uterus contractions . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is tougher to zero in on: it is located about halfway between the back of the pubic bone, and the front of the cervix. In most women the G-spot is about 3 inches into the vagina, and on the upper side.  Gentle but firm pressure is required to find the G spot if the woman is not stimulated yet.  It is a slightly more pliable area about 1/3 of an inch in size. The size, and exact location vary.  A vaginal orgasm will usually occur if the G-spot is appropriately stimulated.

Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:

In summation, sex with orgasms are something amazing that will provide both partners with a wonderful rush of pleasurable feelings. The following can help both of you have orgasms regularly:

1) Women like affection---use your hands, and or mouth to caress her bodyDo not be rough as the genital area is extremely sensitive – you may want to look into something like KY jelly to keep things moist, especially if you have leathery skin on your hands
3) Gently kiss her breasts to create excitement
4) Take it slow- it is not a race
5) Ask her if she likes what you are doing and ask her to tell you what she wants
6) Women like you to tease them sexually – touch and withdraw many times. This will intensify the orgasm and the pleasure for both of you.
7) If she is dry – the most likely case at the beginning of sexual intercourse, use your own natural lubrication, or else use a lubricant like KY Jelly – if she is dry, sex will be painful and cause lasting damage.
8) Learn her body- does her nipples get hard only during arousal or are they like that at other times
9) Try new things as variety can add to the pleasure
10) Don't make demands: this could spoil the moment

Men should use this guide, because if their partner can enjoy orgasms every time they have sex, then you will definitely have more sex.

If you are an sexually unhappy woman – nag your partner to read this article, after all, your entire future is at stake!

Good Luck!

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Can I Find Love Online

     As I took a short cut through the creek behind my house one sunny spring day last year, I was looking at the fallen trees, and the shrubs that some people would argue are flowers, and smelling the water in the creek (that I know comes from the sewers), when a bird crapped on my head. I thought “oh well” just another ordinary day. As I walked along, I came across a buddy of mine that I will call Stinky and please don't ask why I call him that, I think it should not be a mystery to you. As we walked, I told him about the bird, and he replied “quick tell me what tree you were standing under, its good luck”. If I had thought for one minute that it was good luck I would have rolled in it, (as you may have figured Stinky really doesn’t have much of a life, but then again, were two of a kind).

         Our biggest problem is communicating with women. Stinky can usually mouth a few comments, then he has to go away. I’m a little more relaxed since I work with quite a few women anyway. I can usually have  somewhat of a conversation with them before I start to sweat and have any confidence suddenly elude me, then I have to politely excuse myself.

    Stinky feels that women's standards are too high when it comes to dating, however, I beg to differ. I really don't believe for a minute the women suggesting that he  have a shower before picking her up is considered “high slandered”. Stinky  may be the smelliest guy I know, but he is  one of the nicest (nicest not brightest). However, he has been known to come up with good idea's that make  more sense then not, but I'm not sure about this one. “We will join a Dating Site” he cried out. I said before sometimes he comes up with good idea's but this wasn't one of those times. He proceeded to tell me that a friend at work suggested the idea(nice friend). “Is this the same friend that leaves deodorant and body wash on your desk?” I asked. “It sure is! He's a very thoughtful person,” (ya right). Stinky said “My friend met a wonderful women on a dating site,” (what women?? the guy he's talking about  is a homosexual.) “Why would your homosexual friend use a dating site to meet women?” I asked, “I think your getting in over your head”. In the end, and after weeks of hiding from  Stinky and his not so bright idea, I finally decided to give in just to make him happy.

        As I tried to sleep that night, all I could think about was the last date I had, which had not ended under the best of circumstances. I’m sure the woman I'll call (“bottomless pit”), hadn’t eaten in a  few days  prior to our date and she must have thought I owned an oil well or something! After she had gobbled up several hors d'œuvres, as well as several other side dishes, expensive wine and the main course which was a steak dinner, I checked the balance in my bank account, then to my horror she demanded we order desert! “Desert!?” I quickly reminded her that this was not an all you can eat dinner, she then  jumped up called me things I've never heard before and made her way to the door. I ran after her and asked if she would like to see me again, at which time she slugged me with her hand bag (I guess that meant no!). So I went back to the table and sat by myself looking at the bill she had racked up and wondered if I would be able to get some overtime at work next week to pay for it.

        I started to have a lot of doubts about joining a dating site, but since my best friend was very excited about it (and knowing he would do anything for me), I decided to go through with it. It turned out to be the best move that we had ever made. Stinky and I both joined a Dating Site, and it wasn’t long before we had  responses from some beautiful ladies. We were both very nervous and excited to think that we might no longer have to make love to our hand. Stinky asked me “what should I do to get ready?”I said “just get in the shower, turn that water on, use that bar of soap (you only had it for whole year) and scrub your worries  down the drain”, (as well as the dirt and body odor of course).We double dated that evening to  lean on each other, and we had a terrific time. We ate, had some drinks, and danced the night away. Stinky yanked me aside and confided in me, that even though he had just met this women, he knew this was the one. I gave him a bear hug, and said “follow your heart,” and he did. She seemed to take to him as well, surprisingly!

         Well I don't call him Stinky anymore, (no one does now that he has learned  basic  hygiene). He is above all, my best friend. Marcus is still with that wonderful women he met on that dating site. This almost a decade ago now and after dating for some time, they tied the knot. They had two children and are expecting another any time now. As for me, it took a little longer, but I finally found the love of my life, and we are expecting our first child soon. Life is terrific and it keeps getting better!

       Its true what they say, there's somebody for everyone. All you have to do is look in the right place and you'll find them. Some times it just takes someone who cares about you to push you in the right direction . Life is too short and precious to spend it by yourself, wondering what it would be like to have someone to share it with. So if you are interested in making a positive move for the future then take my advice, and get off your ass and go for it.

    Hey, if Stinky and I can do it, so can you! There are so many dating sites out there that you might think you'll never find the right one, but I'll give you a tip, this is the site that me and Stinky used to find the best sites for us and in our opinion its the best place to find dating sites. So if you are tired of being alone and want someone to share your life and love with well just follow this link, you owe it to your future.

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