Sex When Camping

Even if you are not an outdoorsy kind of person, if you are dating over the course of a summer, you are likely to find yourself and your date communing with good old mother nature at some point. Even if roughing it means a cottage with a deck and boathouse rather than a tent on a backpacking trail, you will likely find many romantic moments as you enjoy the invigorating lift that being out in the country gives you. All that fresh air and all those sunsets are natural sexual invigorators – getting her in the intimate frame of mind, and reminding him about the natural side of being alive. The nights will also add their share of enjoyment as you sneak down to the water to skinny-dip under the full moon and the wash of stars in the milky-way. Likely all of these activities will result in 'sex in the wild'. There is however an element of health risk involved, so you should not just do the 'down and dirty' without being prepared. Big city living means that you do not have some of the natural resistance to bacteria that your cave dwelling ancestors did, so you must be more prepared than they were able to be.

Problem: Dirty Sex (And Not “Good” Dirty, Either)

You have to remember that when you’re camping, you’re going to get dirty. All those nature hikes and long walks will cover you in dirt. When you start a fire, you’re going to get covered in ash and grime (at least if you do it like I do). Barbeques will inherently get some sauces and juices on you. And then there are the layers of bug spray and sun block you have on your skin. All together, you’re pretty damn gross by the time you head back to your tent for some “private” times. No woman wants to give oral sex to a gross, dirty penis. And no guy enjoys fondling a boob covered in slimy grime. The thrill will fade quickly.

Solution: Hit the Showers

This is almost a catch 22 issue. If you’re in a national park, go for a walk to the shower station. Go during off-peak hours when you’ll have some privacy – waiting until all the kids in the park are in bed is the perfect time to go. If you sneak in together, you can have a shower, and then shower sex together (likely though, unless you are in a same sex relationship, one of you will be busting into a facility meant for the opposite sex – maybe three in the morning would be better).

Problem:  Being Alone

It doesn’t take an acoustics engineer to realize that the millimeter of nylon that comprises your tent wall won’t do much to keep your sex noises private. And since sound travels so well over water, even people on the other side of the lake will be able to hear what you sound like when you’re trying the Inverted Reverse Pile-driver. Even worse, if you’ve gone camping with friends and their kids, there are going to be a lot of questions in the morning about the strange noises they’ve heard.

 Solution: Long Nature Treks

This is likely the least embarrassing and most satisfying solution. It is really a sort of an intimate commune with nature. But first, you need to think about safety. First, watch out for wildlife – especially lions and tigers and bears – OH MY! – just kidding, but there are some animals that you have to consider depending on your region. Many areas have bears, but in the mountain regions, there are some cats that may cause concern. Most other meat eaters tend to shy away from people, but if you are in the deep south, you can run into reptiles that are not so pleasant. Nothing dampens the libido more than running for your life. Second, don’t go at night – finding your way back in the dark when you’re brain has been scrambled by some hot sex is too difficult. Third, bring a blanket. That way, if you accidentally lay down for the hot times on a fire-ant hill, they’ll have a difficult time getting revenge on you while you’re in the middle of you’re sex. Tell other people in your campsite where you will be.  Now they can send the rangers for you in case you get all caught up in your escapades and do not get back in time.

Enjoy the Ride!

Dating Sites

Seeking Love Online

This is a totally unscientific rant based on my own observations of people both in real life and on dating sites. I have observed the online dating industry for some time now, more as a curiosity than as a member.  I joined several dating sites some years ago and ended up getting caught up in how it is that people interact online versus real life. I have also discussed dating and relationships extensively with people I have met who are/were in all types and phases of relationships.

So what have I found?
Interestingly enough, not much that has not already been discussed before.

When it comes to people meeting in real life, well, that has been going on for millennia, I have absolutely nothing to add on this topic that has not already been hashed out by writers since the time that man first developed writing. 

When it comes to Internet Dating, which has only been in existence since about 1995 or so, there are some insights that can be shared.

So lets start with some popular misconceptions:
Dating Sites Have Fool Proof Matching Formulas
False – The first is that, quite frankly, people lie when they put up their profile information. Garbage in is Garbage out – lets see the brainiacs at the dating sites program around that one.

It Is Less Work To Find My Match On a Dating Site
False – Once you find someone you are interested in, no matter what the relationship you desire, to get on top of it, you have to spend a lot of time getting to know the person. And at some point you will become comfortable that they are not blowing smoke up your tush. If not, all bets are off and you are back to square one looking for someone else who interests you.

Internet Dating Sites are a Great Place To Find People to Date
True – If you are a person who uses dating to interact with someone that you are interested in; then a dating site is likely to connect you with many more people than you can possibly find via your own means offline.

Internet Dating Sites Are More Likely To Find My Soul Mate.
False – Quantity does not equal quality. Just because you can see and interact with a lot more people online than you can in real life does not mean that you are being exposed to quality people that you have any real compatibility with, and even if you are compatible from an intellectual point of view, there is no guarantee that you will find the chemistry with them that you need to achieve soul mate status.


So What Good Are Dating Sites Anyway They are dynamite if you are willing to be open and look outside of your normal comfort zone for possible matches. They are good for people who have not been successful finding their soul mate in real life because quite frankly they are looking for the wrong type of person in the wrong places.  If you approach online dating with an open mind, you will likely be able to interact with many more disparate people then you normally hang out with, and in that process, discover more about what you like in other people, which may just change your mind about who you need in your life to complete you.

To that end, you should approach using an online dating system the way you would approach getting an education. It is possible to educate yourself without going to school, but going to a school makes it easier to obtain a well-rounded education. Similarly, it is possible for you to find the love of your life without using a dating site, but you will likely be exposed to a whole lot more varying people at a dating site than you would by tapping into your circle of friends..

So, open your heart and give online dating a try.

You can start here:
http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/onlinedating.php

How to Find Love Online

This is a totally unscientific rant based on my own observations of people both in real life and on dating sites. I have observed the online dating industry for some time now, more as a curiosity than as a member.  As a member of several dating sites over the years, I have seen first hand how it is that people interact both successfully and unsuccessfully. I have also tapped into my own extensive circle of friends and acquaintances in this same time period and also witnessed most aspects of the offline dating world as well.

So what have I found?
Interestingly enough, not much that has not already been discussed before.

When it comes to people meeting in real life, well, that has been going on for a millennia, I have absolutely nothing to add on this topic that has not already been hashed out by writers since the time that man first developed writing. 

Internet dating, which is a higher tech offshoot of the matchmaking services that have been around for hundreds of years, is a relatively new beast, and as such, there are some insights that can be passed on that most people have yet to learn.

So lets start with some popular misconceptions:
Dating Sites Have Wonderful Matching Algorithms That Guarantee Me a Perfect Match
False – The second is that people do not really know for sure what it is that they are looking for in a mate.  They may think that they do, but if you look around and talk to people you will often find people in very successful relationships that have trouble understanding why it was that they first clicked! What it comes down to is head and heart – no matter what your head says, your heart will overrule successfully every time. Your head rules by logic, your heart rules by chemistry. I defy you to define the chemistry of your perfect match!!

I Do Not Have To Work As Hard On A Dating Site To Find Someone I Like
False – Once you find someone you are interested in, no matter what the relationship you desire, to get on top of it, you have to spend a lot of time getting to know the person. And at some point you will become comfortable that they are not blowing smoke up your tush. If not, all bets are off and you are back to square one looking for someone else who interests you.

Internet Dating Sites are a Great Place To Find People to Date
True – If you are a person who uses dating to interact with someone that you are interested in; then a dating site is likely to connect you with many more people than you can possibly find via your own means offline.

Dating Sites Are Better At Connecting You To Your Soul Mate.
False – Maybe false is too harsh – it is a definite perhaps, and it depends on your attitude. If you are willing to look outside of your normal comfort zone, you have a better chance finding someone on an internet dating site that you would through your own personal network of friends.


So What Good Are Dating Sites Anyway They are dynamite if you are willing to be open and look outside of your normal comfort zone for possible matches. If you are not successful finding someone the normal way, it is often because you are just looking in the wrong places. Dating sites are amazing in the one single fact that everyone on them is looking to date. You do not have to prequalify each introduction with a lot of tap dancing trying to figure out if the person you are talking to is looking for someone.  The secret with online dating is to open yourself up to other possibilities that you might not have looked at before. Be willing to be disappointed with each person that you connect with, but also be willing to be entranced. You might be shocked at the person who ends up winning your heart.

To that end, you should approach using an online dating system the way you would approach getting an education. It is possible to educate yourself without going to school, but going to a school makes it easier to obtain a well-rounded education. Similarly, it is possible for you to find the love of your life without using a dating site, but you will likely be exposed to a whole lot more varying people at a dating site than you would by tapping into your circle of friends..

So, open your heart and give online dating a try.

You can start here:
http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/onlinedating.php

Hidden Dangers of Popular Date Ideas

Starting out a new relationship is always an iffy affair. The first four or five dates are the most important in setting the tone for a long-term relationship. You need to reach that delicate balance of showing that you got things together, which may take a bit of truth stretching, while at the same time being yourself and totally honest. Unfortunately, a lot of popular date ideas have hidden dangers that a lot of people are unaware of. In an effort to help, this article will outline a few example first date ideas and what things to avoid doing. So prepared, you can come across as a mature, sophisticated person who has it all together.

Putting Parks

This would seem like a harmless activity. I mean, what could possibly go wrong with tapping a ball with a golf club? This should be nothing more than an easy walk through of a few holes on a tiny set of fake putting greens. Even this potential snuggle fest venue can have dangers around every corner.

Whatever you do, do not compete with her, even jokingly!! Make sure you keep it all in fun! If you get trapped into a competition, you will lose, even if you win at getting the ball in the hole, you will never get a chance at the nineteenth hole as it were. And before you go making any “ball” or “in the hole” jokes, make sure your date is the sort who would appreciate them.

Playing with Frisbees

Taking your new sweetheart to the park for a picnic and some Frisbee is always a lot of fun, but you have to keep some things in mind. If your paramour is not that adept at catching Frisbees, you can embarrass her. Make sure that you lob in some easy ones to start to assess her skill level. If she can handle it then you can increase the intensity a bit. Just make sure that you never toss it so hard that you run the risk of breaking a nose if she misses it. That will definitely put a damper on the rest of the day's entertainment!

On another note, stay away from windy locations like the beach so you do not lose control of it. Before you know it, your disc will have flown out to sea, or hit some quick-tempered jerk’s radio. Then you have a fight on your hands. Better to set up in a nice clearing or sheltered area someplace away from the crowds. Besides, you do not need her comparing you to all the muscle bound he-man types that frequent beaches in the first place!

Going To See A Film

The movie date has been a staple for years now, and for good reason. The right selection of movie and snacks will put your girl in a relaxed and erotic mood. Plus, you don’t have to maintain a conversation during the film, and after the film, you can talk about the movie. Just make sure you avoid the next couple of pitfalls.

Just the price alone is likely to be the first shocker. If you have not been to a movie in a while, you may be surprised. Twenty five dollars plus another twenty for snacks is not unusual for a first line movie. If you think that regular movies have gotten expensive, then you have not been to an IMAX theater yet.

Second, the choice of movie is all important. If it’s a new movie, make sure you reserve tickets by phone. Plus, I’d advise against any movie where Brad Pitt takes his shirt off. Sure, she’ll be turned on by him, but when you’re back at her place, and you take your shirt off, she’ll compare, and you won’t come out on top (or bottom for that matter).

Romantic movies are the best choice to turn her on. Romantic comedies usually work. Avoid non-romantic themes. Clint Eastwood was a handsome rugged dude in his day, but most of his movies were anything but romantic. They would leave your lady cold at the end of the night!


Concerts

Make sure that the band is to her taste! It’s no good taking her to see a reggae show if that’s what you’re into, but she’s not. Give her what she prefers. However, no matter what concert you take her to, you should be aware that you are HER security. If there’s moshing, or rowdy drunks, you have to be her protection. Wear steel-toed boots if it’s a thrash metal show, just to be safe.

On another note, if you have been to a loud performance, both of you will be slightly deaf afterwards. Be conscious of the fact that both of you might be talking really loud and will attract attention. Also, make sure that you really understood what she says correctly. If you think she said "I want sex", make sure that is what she said before you take liberties.

And remember that if you have been dancing up a storm all night, you will likely be stinky with sweat afterwards. Make sure that you take a second to wash and apply some deodorant before you leave the club!

   
Amusement Park

It would seem like bringing a woman to the amusement park would have all sorts of benefits. The best rides of course are the ones where she grabs you, either in fear, or just to keep from falling. There is an opportunity to play some fun games, ride some fun rides, and munch on goodies. Being skillful enough to win her a stuffed toy as a reminder of the day is always good too. However, you have to remember that they don’t just give those stuffed animals away. You don’t want to spend a fortune and all night trying to get a ring on the bottle. If it doesn’t happen right away, just move on. Trust me.

Be wary of the food as well. Eating is not the smartest thing to do at a carnival. Often there are scant washing facilities, and you have been touching dirty ride safety bars all night. Make sure you take a hand sanitizer with you and eat sparingly. Who knows how well the kitchen help keep clean. As well, the possibility of someone vomiting as they get off a ride is a mental picture that will fizzle any kissing possibilities.

One last thing. Many rides take pictures of you at the scariest point. Figure out where that is before you get on the ride and try to look nonchalant at that point. After all, you may want to by the picture later.

A Night of Video Games At An Arcade

If your date is into gaming, it can be a fun pastime for both of you. But as with many women these days, do not be surprised if she cleans your clock. On that note, you should never boast ahead of time about how great you are at gaming in general. Besides, losing is okay. It gives you the perfect excuse to take her back there some other day for a re-match.


Starbucks

Even the seemingly safest date possible – the coffee date – has some problems you have to anticipate. The biggest is that if the date is going well, you might end up having more caffeine than you are used to in your system. Before you know it, you’ll be talking a mile a minute, shaking your legs like crazy, and have really bugged-out and intense eyes. Do not drink more than a couple of cups. At that point, swing over to something decaffeinated, like a juice or water or herbal tea. You will look more worldly, and she would be more likely to admire you because you are seemingly health conscious.




Well, that’s about all the advice I can give you for those seven kinds of dates. I hope these examples give you an idea of what to do if you are planning something different. The trick is, anticipate, anticipate, anticipate!!! Imagine the worst and then figure out how to avoid each negative situation that you can come up with. You’ll look like you’re a together sort of fellow, and that can only help your chances at getting her to actually say “I want sex”, and not “separate checks”.


For other relationship advice,  you should take a look here as well:
Advice For Men When Dating

Transsexuals

As a transsexual person, finding love is not easy. We are such a small population demographic that it is difficult to find someone who gets you. I now understand from first hand experience that transsexual people in smaller centers often lead a lonely, despondent life.  For this reason, and pretty much for this reason alone, transsexual people are usually drawn to large urban centers.
My first adventure in online relationships was with AOL chat several years ago. The very first time I entered a chat-room I was mesmerized, I thought, “this is fantastic, what a great way to meet people”. It only took me two or three months to realize what I was exposing myself to. Many of the people that I met where just there to take advantage of other people. I think I heard every scam in the world in my time using AOL chat. What a huge disappointment!
 I was living in a small rural community when I first found AOL. I do not have mainstream sexual preferences, and it was having no luck finding someone of a compatible nature in my community. You cannot imagine how lonely I was! There was nobody in my community that I could relate to. I was becoming increasingly depressed. When I found AOL chat, it seemed to me that it was the answer to my prayers. Finally, a chance to meet someone that I had something in common with. I was willing to move anywhere for that.
I chatted with hundreds and even traveled to meet some people in person, but for the longest time I couldn't seem to find anyone online who seem to be real, or that I felt was compatible with. At one point I was sure that I had found the one but I soon found out there’s a thin line between reality and fantasy.
It seems that many people online pad the truth about who they are or what they do. Since you are at the end of a wire, nobody knows who you really are, so it is pretty safe to lie. It can bring out the best and the worst in a person. There is no retribution for misbehavior or giving false information to another person. You can play games with peoples feelings, hurt people and even play sadistic games with them for your own pleasure. You can even manipulate the innocent emotions of others who have not yet discovered what a real snake pit some online chat-rooms are. Then after you have screwed with their emotions you can vanish into thin air and then just pop up again later using a different name.
Online romance can be just so hurtful, some of the people on these chat-rooms can make you feel like you're a nobody, not good for anything and that just maybe you deserve to be alone. They can hurt you down to your soul if you give them half a chance. Falling for someone and being hurt will often leave you questioning yourself at the most basic levels. Often you wonder if their is something wrong with you, when usually it is the other person who is at fault.
You really need to use your head when you're seeking romance online. I had the experience of being approached by quite a few people who acted like they were really interested in me. We seemed to have a lot in common and we would chat endlessly, sometimes for weeks. The funny thing was they would never ask to take the conversation to the phone, and of course I never insisted that we converse by phone, instead I would let these chats go on and on. I wasted a lot of time chatting with these people.
I finally realized that I was being made a fool of way too often. So as not to waste any more time in conversations that were going absolutely nowhere I decided to set some limits. I decided that from now on I would chat online for no more than a week, and then if we both found each other interesting I would insist they call me on the phone or I could call them.
WOW! Houdini had nothing on these people, most of them mysteriously vanished without a trace, seems they all could  afford computers, high speed modems and expensive internet service but couldn't seem to afford a phone. To my way of thinking, real people use telephones, talking on the phone is an essential component of the process of getting to know someone. If they have issues talking to you on the phone, then they are either deceitful, or else they have anxiety issues that will likely get in the way later anyway!
Chatting by phone is also a good way to find out whether or not you can trust the person that sends you little smiley faces. Until then you really have no reason to trust them, nor should you invest your heart. Phone access is a two way street when it comes to getting to know each other. If you can never call this person at home, only get busy signals or talking to voice mail, or worse yet, find yourself at the giving end of a pager, then you should be smelling a rat!

It does not take a rocket scientist to figure out that I was pretty down on chat room relationships.A friend of mine pointed out that I was using the wrong type of online place to find my future partner. He suggested that I actually join an online dating site, one specializing in transvestites, as it would already have its membership pre-filtered for me. He also said that because you have to pay to join, it tends to filter our the looky-loos and most people are serious about starting a relationship with someone. My God, I almost flipped! I had no idea that such a thing even existed. he gave me the domain name of a site that listed and rated hundreds of specialty dating sites, including a page of transsexual dating sites.

Well let me tell you had it worked out. I tried signed up to a couple of transvestite dating sites and found the person of my dreams. If online dating sites can work for me, they can work for anybody!

Bon Chance!

Transsexual Dating

Setting Up a Single Dad

This is the time when many women have been thinking about their parents.

You have likely already made purchases for your parents, but is there something else you could do? 

Lets look outside of your immediate family and broaden your sights to include your immediate circle of friends.

Do you know a single dad that is so devoted to his kids and job that he does not spend much time on his personal life? You know the type. Someone that is only a friend, but is truly a great guy and would be a stellar husband for some lucky female.

So would you like to be play Yenta for him and find him a match?

But you are out of girlfriends, what can you do now?

So how about this as the perfect gift for your friend?

A situation where he can select the next person to go out with!
A gift that gives him an opportunity to communicate with lots of women who may want to be a mother to his children!
How about a way to relieve his loneliness without having to pick up a phone and listen to fake 'sexy women' on some chat line!

All of these issues are addressed by signing him up to an online dating site.

Unfortunately, most men really suck at communicating and expressing their wishes.  They are also not good at letting the great person that they really are show publicly.

Enter you!

The best present for your single male friend would be to purchase him a membership to an online dating site.  For a personal touch, you enter their personal ad for them. Set up the profile, select a few of those great pictures that you have of him enjoying himself with friends, and then write up profile text that would make any woman dash out the door in her hurry to meet this guy.

It takes a woman to understand the needs of, and reach the heart of another woman after all.

Do your friend a favor.

Spend the time to give him the gift of companionship for a lifetime.

It is a gift that keeps giving forever!

For a solid starting point, check out this link for ideas of the best online dating sites to select from:
Online Dating Sites

Can I Find Love Online

     As I took a short cut through the creek behind my house one sunny spring day last year, I was looking at the fallen trees, and the shrubs that some people would argue are flowers, and smelling the water in the creek (that I know comes from the sewers), when a bird crapped on my head. I thought “oh well” just another ordinary day. As I walked along, I came across a buddy of mine that I will call Stinky and please don't ask why I call him that, I think it should not be a mystery to you. As we walked, I told him about the bird, and he replied “quick tell me what tree you were standing under, its good luck”. If I had thought for one minute that it was good luck I would have rolled in it, (as you may have figured Stinky really doesn’t have much of a life, but then again, were two of a kind).

         Our biggest problem is communicating with women. Stinky can usually mouth a few comments, then he has to go away. I’m a little more relaxed since I work with quite a few women anyway. I can usually have  somewhat of a conversation with them before I start to sweat and have any confidence suddenly elude me, then I have to politely excuse myself.

    Stinky feels that women's standards are too high when it comes to dating, however, I beg to differ. I really don't believe for a minute the women suggesting that he  have a shower before picking her up is considered “high slandered”. Stinky  may be the smelliest guy I know, but he is  one of the nicest (nicest not brightest). However, he has been known to come up with good idea's that make  more sense then not, but I'm not sure about this one. “We will join a Dating Site” he cried out. I said before sometimes he comes up with good idea's but this wasn't one of those times. He proceeded to tell me that a friend at work suggested the idea(nice friend). “Is this the same friend that leaves deodorant and body wash on your desk?” I asked. “It sure is! He's a very thoughtful person,” (ya right). Stinky said “My friend met a wonderful women on a dating site,” (what women?? the guy he's talking about  is a homosexual.) “Why would your homosexual friend use a dating site to meet women?” I asked, “I think your getting in over your head”. In the end, and after weeks of hiding from  Stinky and his not so bright idea, I finally decided to give in just to make him happy.

        As I tried to sleep that night, all I could think about was the last date I had, which had not ended under the best of circumstances. I’m sure the woman I'll call (“bottomless pit”), hadn’t eaten in a  few days  prior to our date and she must have thought I owned an oil well or something! After she had gobbled up several hors d'œuvres, as well as several other side dishes, expensive wine and the main course which was a steak dinner, I checked the balance in my bank account, then to my horror she demanded we order desert! “Desert!?” I quickly reminded her that this was not an all you can eat dinner, she then  jumped up called me things I've never heard before and made her way to the door. I ran after her and asked if she would like to see me again, at which time she slugged me with her hand bag (I guess that meant no!). So I went back to the table and sat by myself looking at the bill she had racked up and wondered if I would be able to get some overtime at work next week to pay for it.

        I started to have a lot of doubts about joining a dating site, but since my best friend was very excited about it (and knowing he would do anything for me), I decided to go through with it. It turned out to be the best move that we had ever made. Stinky and I both joined a Dating Site, and it wasn’t long before we had  responses from some beautiful ladies. We were both very nervous and excited to think that we might no longer have to make love to our hand. Stinky asked me “what should I do to get ready?”I said “just get in the shower, turn that water on, use that bar of soap (you only had it for whole year) and scrub your worries  down the drain”, (as well as the dirt and body odor of course).We double dated that evening to  lean on each other, and we had a terrific time. We ate, had some drinks, and danced the night away. Stinky yanked me aside and confided in me, that even though he had just met this women, he knew this was the one. I gave him a bear hug, and said “follow your heart,” and he did. She seemed to take to him as well, surprisingly!

         Well I don't call him Stinky anymore, (no one does now that he has learned  basic  hygiene). He is above all, my best friend. Marcus is still with that wonderful women he met on that dating site. This almost a decade ago now and after dating for some time, they tied the knot. They had two children and are expecting another any time now. As for me, it took a little longer, but I finally found the love of my life, and we are expecting our first child soon. Life is terrific and it keeps getting better!

       Its true what they say, there's somebody for everyone. All you have to do is look in the right place and you'll find them. Some times it just takes someone who cares about you to push you in the right direction . Life is too short and precious to spend it by yourself, wondering what it would be like to have someone to share it with. So if you are interested in making a positive move for the future then take my advice, and get off your ass and go for it.

    Hey, if Stinky and I can do it, so can you! There are so many dating sites out there that you might think you'll never find the right one, but I'll give you a tip, this is the site that me and Stinky used to find the best sites for us and in our opinion its the best place to find dating sites. So if you are tired of being alone and want someone to share your life and love with well just follow this link, you owe it to your future.

Dating Sites