50 Ways To Leave Your Lover

Almost as many erotic relationships end as are started. I mean, it might be nice to have lots of friends with benefits so that you are never without a handy sex partner, but for some reason our society still has not reached this level of maturity.

Back to the point of this diatribe; if you are going to be good at getting into many relationships, you have to be just as good at getting out of them. For some reason, people getting into relationships just never figure the odds that you have to get out of most of them. Since the average person now-a-days has about 8 or 9 intimate relationships before settling down, that means that if you have 9 relationships before forming a permanent bond with someone, it means that you had to have ended 8 of them. Putting it mathematically, if R = the number of relationships that you start, then R-1 is the number of relationships that you had to end. OUCH!


Good Break Up Tips

1. Do It Somewhere Private, Preferably Their Place

Many times, a breakup will be emotional. Sometimes throwing things emotional. Sometimes crying emotional. In any event, being in a very public place, like a restaurant, airs these emotions in front of too many people. Restaurants are also difficult to leave quickly because at least one of you has to stick around long enough to pay the bill.

2. Do it on Friday

This is a consideration for them so that they can get it back together before having to go to work. Often people will miss work the next day. If they get fired, then you have the added guilt of them losing their job as a result of you breaking up with them. You want to avoid that. In any event, it gives them a chance to call up other close friends and thoroughly trash you, drink themselves into oblivion, cry themselves out, and get over the ensuing hangover without missing a day of work.

3. Give Space and Time

It is actually less painful to break up if it is done quickly. Keep it short, and do not allow it to drag into hours of trying to defend your decision. If you are breaking up because you have found someone new, do not rub it in their face later by being seen almost immediately in all your old haunts with the new love of your life.


Things Not To Do When Breaking Up

1. Do not break up in the kitchen. There are just too many handy sharp objects and hard missiles. A living room, or near an exit door is best.

2. Never break up on an island or mountaintop. You will likely be forced to take the ferry or ski lift back with them. If they want to make a scene, you have to jump off to get away. Then again, the rescue crew might have some hot new prospects…

3. If they start asking why you want to end it, don’t get caught up in a debate. If they can out argue you, you might be tempted to give it another try. It’s a trap! Stick to your guns, and wish them the best. After all, the sooner they find someone new, the sooner you can start double dating and, if you’re lucky and the sex was good, wife swapping.

And remember – there are plenty of fish in the sea!

Good luck!

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Dating Chinese

When both people in a potential dating relationship are Chinese, they are well aware of Chinese cultural norms. However, if one partner is not Chinese, explanations about Chinese culture and its impact on dating are necessary.

Here are some insights on the Chinese way of thinking:

Chinese women are typically a little coy and expect the man to make the first move. In Chinese culture the men still chase the women, and women expect them to lead when it comes to starting a relationship.

If you are contacted by a Chinese woman on a online dating site always be respectful and polite.

In the Chinese culture, you are expected to disclose information about everything, from type of car and size of house, down to the state of your health, your position at work and the amount of money that you make. It is all considered to contribute to your status in society, so you need to be willing to discuss it. Not wanting discussing it seems very strange to Chinese people and they will think you are trying to hide something.

Most women in China marry at an early age and Chinese men find it a little strange for women to be in their thirty's and still single. Chinese women over the age of 30 who find themselves still unattached are likely to welcome any opportunity to form a lasting relationship. Women who have been divorced or widowed are often considered invisible on the dating scene and will usually welcome the attention.

In the Chinese culture, your education level is part of your status, and as such, people expect you to be up front with the level attained. They greatly respect people with advanced degrees.

In the Chinese culture, women are taught to see security in financial stability. They will tend to marry success rather than looks.

A big majority of Chinese people who have a good command of the English language are usually well educated. Those who are not probably have never had the opportunity to learn, so a little patience will make it a little easier for them to learn, remember patience is a virtue.

Since religion was banned in China under the reign of chairman Mao, many people in China do not have a practicing religion.

In Chinese society, the man is expected to pay for everything on a date, this includes dinner, movies, theatre, snacks and, if needed, taxis.

Chinese people usually date with the idea of starting a long term relationship. Dating for fun or for casual sex is not normally something that they do.

Many Chinese people will avoid drinking alcohol, so it would be wise not to suggest stopping for a drink on your first date, instead it would be a better idea to suggest lunch or maybe a coffee or tea.

Do not have any expectations of mainland Chinese people showing up for a date on time. It is not in the culture..

Try not be offended if he or she wants to help you tidy up your things or perform some kind of maintenance around your home, mowing the lawn, doing dishes maybe even helping you paint, it means that he or she really likes you and wants to do something nice to help you out.

Chinese people are very attentive to the sick, and are also very health conscious. Expect them to be vocal about things they see you do that they do not think is healthy.

Chinese are non-demonstrative in their love. They may be bonkers over you, but they would never be so crude as to actually say that out loud. Understatement of affection is the name of the game. They show affection more by actions than words.

Being aware of some of the major differences in the culture between the western world and China will help you to be a little more understanding towards each other and of each others expectations.

I hope this article was helpful to you as well as informative, being tolerant of each others differences makes for a happier relationship so if you are interested in meeting lovely beautiful people with a Chinese background you have reached the right place. Attractive Chinese ladies and men from all social backgrounds would love to meet you so just follow the link below.

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50 Ways To Leave Your Lover

Let’s face it: sometimes things go south in a relationship. I’m not sure why they call something bad “going south”. I love going south. It’s warm. Lots of bikinis.

Back to the point of this diatribe; if you are going to be good at getting into many relationships, you have to be just as good at getting out of them. For some reason, people getting into relationships just never figure the odds that you have to get out of most of them. Since the average person now-a-days has about 8 or 9 intimate relationships before settling down, that means that if you have 9 relationships before forming a permanent bond with someone, it means that you had to have ended 8 of them. Putting it mathematically, if R = the number of relationships that you start, then R-1 is the number of relationships that you had to end. OUCH!


Good Break Up Tips

1. Do Not Do It In A Public Place

The best situation when breaking up with someone is to do it at his or her place. A lot of people say go somewhere public so they won’t make a scene. But sometimes the scene is inevitable, and you don’t want to be in public when that happens. Do it at their place, and then if they want to break something, it’s their stuff. They can kick you out, and you can leave peacefully. They don’t feel embarrassed if you’re out in public. It’s their safe place, so it’s best.

2. Do It Just Before A Weekend

This is best because it gives them time to get used to the idea before having to face the concentration that most jobs require. Relationships are one of the most disruptive things to productivity at work. Productivity goes down when you start a relationship. Productivity takes a tail spin when a relationship is ended. If they are border-line at their job for whatever reason, then the break up can lead to termination, thus adding to your guilt load.

3. Keep It Short And Give Them Space

The best way to effectively have a smooth break-up is limit the time you’re together with your ex immediately after the dumping. If you start seeing someone new, don’t take them to your ex’s regular haunt. Don’t rub your new partner in their face! And, if you need to talk to friends about the reason you broke up, choose friends that are not common friends. Otherwise, you’re asking for a soap opera, and I mean that in a bad way. Even though I watch soap operas. They’re hot. And they have bikinis.


Bad Break Up Don'ts

1. Don’t break up in the knife department at Sears. There are too many temptations for them to give you a little going-away present (like a circumcision, or an impromptu hair cut). If you have to do it out in public, do it at the marshmallow factory. There are very few sharp edges there.

2. Do not break up in a place where you will have to be together for a long period of time afterwards. Breaking up while on vacation is bad. Breaking up if you are on an island where you have to take the ferry back is also bad. Breaking up in some rural setting is bad unless you both came in separate vehicles.

3. If they start asking why you want to end it, don’t get caught up in a debate. If they can out argue you, you might be tempted to give it another try. It’s a trap! Stick to your guns, and wish them the best. After all, the sooner they find someone new, the sooner you can start double dating and, if you’re lucky and the sex was good, wife swapping.

And just remember, there are a lot more people out there for both of you. It might be the end of the world as they know it, but the world will force them to recognize new beginnings.

Good luck!

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Hidden Dangers of Popular Date Ideas

Starting out a new relationship is always an iffy affair. The first four or five dates are the most important in setting the tone for a long-term relationship. You need to reach that delicate balance of showing that you got things together, which may take a bit of truth stretching, while at the same time being yourself and totally honest. Unfortunately, a lot of popular date ideas have hidden dangers that a lot of people are unaware of. In an effort to help, this article will outline a few example first date ideas and what things to avoid doing. So prepared, you can come across as a mature, sophisticated person who has it all together.

Putting Parks

This would seem like a harmless activity. I mean, what could possibly go wrong with tapping a ball with a golf club? This should be nothing more than an easy walk through of a few holes on a tiny set of fake putting greens. Even this potential snuggle fest venue can have dangers around every corner.

Whatever you do, do not compete with her, even jokingly!! Make sure you keep it all in fun! If you get trapped into a competition, you will lose, even if you win at getting the ball in the hole, you will never get a chance at the nineteenth hole as it were. And before you go making any “ball” or “in the hole” jokes, make sure your date is the sort who would appreciate them.

Playing with Frisbees

Taking your new sweetheart to the park for a picnic and some Frisbee is always a lot of fun, but you have to keep some things in mind. If your paramour is not that adept at catching Frisbees, you can embarrass her. Make sure that you lob in some easy ones to start to assess her skill level. If she can handle it then you can increase the intensity a bit. Just make sure that you never toss it so hard that you run the risk of breaking a nose if she misses it. That will definitely put a damper on the rest of the day's entertainment!

On another note, stay away from windy locations like the beach so you do not lose control of it. Before you know it, your disc will have flown out to sea, or hit some quick-tempered jerk’s radio. Then you have a fight on your hands. Better to set up in a nice clearing or sheltered area someplace away from the crowds. Besides, you do not need her comparing you to all the muscle bound he-man types that frequent beaches in the first place!

Going To See A Film

The movie date has been a staple for years now, and for good reason. The right selection of movie and snacks will put your girl in a relaxed and erotic mood. Plus, you don’t have to maintain a conversation during the film, and after the film, you can talk about the movie. Just make sure you avoid the next couple of pitfalls.

Just the price alone is likely to be the first shocker. If you have not been to a movie in a while, you may be surprised. Twenty five dollars plus another twenty for snacks is not unusual for a first line movie. If you think that regular movies have gotten expensive, then you have not been to an IMAX theater yet.

Second, the choice of movie is all important. If it’s a new movie, make sure you reserve tickets by phone. Plus, I’d advise against any movie where Brad Pitt takes his shirt off. Sure, she’ll be turned on by him, but when you’re back at her place, and you take your shirt off, she’ll compare, and you won’t come out on top (or bottom for that matter).

Romantic movies are the best choice to turn her on. Romantic comedies usually work. Avoid non-romantic themes. Clint Eastwood was a handsome rugged dude in his day, but most of his movies were anything but romantic. They would leave your lady cold at the end of the night!


Concerts

Make sure that the band is to her taste! It’s no good taking her to see a reggae show if that’s what you’re into, but she’s not. Give her what she prefers. However, no matter what concert you take her to, you should be aware that you are HER security. If there’s moshing, or rowdy drunks, you have to be her protection. Wear steel-toed boots if it’s a thrash metal show, just to be safe.

On another note, if you have been to a loud performance, both of you will be slightly deaf afterwards. Be conscious of the fact that both of you might be talking really loud and will attract attention. Also, make sure that you really understood what she says correctly. If you think she said "I want sex", make sure that is what she said before you take liberties.

And remember that if you have been dancing up a storm all night, you will likely be stinky with sweat afterwards. Make sure that you take a second to wash and apply some deodorant before you leave the club!

   
Amusement Park

It would seem like bringing a woman to the amusement park would have all sorts of benefits. The best rides of course are the ones where she grabs you, either in fear, or just to keep from falling. There is an opportunity to play some fun games, ride some fun rides, and munch on goodies. Being skillful enough to win her a stuffed toy as a reminder of the day is always good too. However, you have to remember that they don’t just give those stuffed animals away. You don’t want to spend a fortune and all night trying to get a ring on the bottle. If it doesn’t happen right away, just move on. Trust me.

Be wary of the food as well. Eating is not the smartest thing to do at a carnival. Often there are scant washing facilities, and you have been touching dirty ride safety bars all night. Make sure you take a hand sanitizer with you and eat sparingly. Who knows how well the kitchen help keep clean. As well, the possibility of someone vomiting as they get off a ride is a mental picture that will fizzle any kissing possibilities.

One last thing. Many rides take pictures of you at the scariest point. Figure out where that is before you get on the ride and try to look nonchalant at that point. After all, you may want to by the picture later.

A Night of Video Games At An Arcade

If your date is into gaming, it can be a fun pastime for both of you. But as with many women these days, do not be surprised if she cleans your clock. On that note, you should never boast ahead of time about how great you are at gaming in general. Besides, losing is okay. It gives you the perfect excuse to take her back there some other day for a re-match.


Starbucks

Even the seemingly safest date possible – the coffee date – has some problems you have to anticipate. The biggest is that if the date is going well, you might end up having more caffeine than you are used to in your system. Before you know it, you’ll be talking a mile a minute, shaking your legs like crazy, and have really bugged-out and intense eyes. Do not drink more than a couple of cups. At that point, swing over to something decaffeinated, like a juice or water or herbal tea. You will look more worldly, and she would be more likely to admire you because you are seemingly health conscious.




Well, that’s about all the advice I can give you for those seven kinds of dates. I hope these examples give you an idea of what to do if you are planning something different. The trick is, anticipate, anticipate, anticipate!!! Imagine the worst and then figure out how to avoid each negative situation that you can come up with. You’ll look like you’re a together sort of fellow, and that can only help your chances at getting her to actually say “I want sex”, and not “separate checks”.


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Good Ways to Break Up

Let’s face it: sometimes things go south in a relationship. I’m not sure why they call something bad “going south”. I love going south. It’s warm. Lots of bikinis.

Back to the point of this diatribe; if you are going to be good at getting into many relationships, you have to be just as good at getting out of them. For some reason, people getting into relationships just never figure the odds that you have to get out of most of them. Since the average person now-a-days has about 8 or 9 intimate relationships before settling down, that means that if you have 9 relationships before forming a permanent bond with someone, it means that you had to have ended 8 of them. Putting it mathematically, if R = the number of relationships that you start, then R-1 is the number of relationships that you had to end. OUCH!

Good Break Up Tips

1. Do It Privately

Many times, a breakup will be emotional. Sometimes throwing things emotional. Sometimes crying emotional. In any event, being in a very public place, like a restaurant, airs these emotions in front of too many people. Restaurants are also difficult to leave quickly because at least one of you has to stick around long enough to pay the bill.

2. Do It Just Before A Weekend

This is best because it gives them time to get used to the idea before having to face the concentration that most jobs require. Relationships are one of the most disruptive things to productivity at work. Productivity goes down when you start a relationship. Productivity takes a tail spin when a relationship is ended. If they are border-line at their job for whatever reason, then the break up can lead to termination, thus adding to your guilt load.

3. Give Space and Time

Keep the break up itself to a few minutes. Have some solid answers to the question "Why?" Don't just stand there in a poor imitation of Hugh Grant, looking embarrassed. Make sure that you extricate yourself from the situation within a few minutes of telling them. Then stay away from any of their usual haunts for the next month or so.

Things Not To Do When Breaking Up

1. Pick your breakup turf carefully so as to minimize sharp objects and hard objects. Both of these types of things can be used on you in a fit of anger or despair. So, kitchens, craft rooms and work-rooms are out. For the same reasons, do not end it in a hardware store or kitchen specialty shop if you have to end it in public for some reason.

2. Do not break up in a place where you will have to be together for a long period of time afterwards. Breaking up while on vacation is bad. Breaking up if you are on an island where you have to take the ferry back is also bad. Breaking up in some rural setting is bad unless you both came in separate vehicles.

3. If they start asking why you want to end it, don’t get caught up in a debate. If they can out argue you, you might be tempted to give it another try. It’s a trap! Stick to your guns, and wish them the best. After all, the sooner they find someone new, the sooner you can start double dating and, if you’re lucky and the sex was good, wife swapping.



Good luck!

For more advice articles, check out the following links:

Relationships Advice for Men

Relationships Advice for Women

If you have broken up recently and are looking for love, then check the following:
Top 10 Dating Sites