If A Movie Is Your First Date

Movie dates are often a good choice because it gives you time to think about what to do after the movie. I mean, after all you have to be flexible depending on how well each of you enjoyed the movie.

The worst thing about a movie date can also be it's best thing. It is hard to talk during a movie. In fact it is frowned upon. So that is bad. On the other hand, it gives you both a chance to get used to being around each other without a lot of pressure on anyone's part to keep the conversation flowing. So that is good. When the movie is over, it now gives you a mutual topic of conversation, especially if the movie was mediocre or bad. Truly great movies are hard to have a stimulating conversation about until you have had a few hours to reflect on them. If you see a classic great movie together, however, it can be talked about because both of you have seen it before and have already reflected somewhat. Interestingly enough, the worse the movie is, the more it will stimulate conversation.

After selecting the movie to see, you will likely what some sort of snack and refreshment. Although it is hard to do, try to stay away from popcorn and soda pop. Most guys eat popcorn like pigs, and that will not leave a lasting good impression. Soda will make you belch, which is also not a something your date will brag about later. Better to go with a candied treat like M&M's or Smarties. For a drink, consider iced tea or fruit juice. If nothing else, these latter choices will show that you are not an inside the box thinker.

Good Movies

Even within a genre, there are good and bad choices. You are looking for something that mixes romance into the plot-line, so selection is important. Hopefully you are taking her to a Cineplex type of theater that gives you a lot of on the spot choices. This means that before the date, you should have done some research into what movies are playing at the venue where you are taking her. Be prepared!

Three examples of good first date movies would have been:

1. Comedy –Adam Sandler has an amazing ability to pull off comedy with romantic interest in most of his movies.

2. Drama – Some of the Victor Hugo classics like Les Miserables, The Hunchback of Notre Dame, or Tale of Two Cities. I do not know how he does it, but the movies always seem to have an optimistic and upbeat ending, even while the subject matter is based on tragedy and misery by and large.

3. Romance – Princess bride – The perfect first date movie. Got me my first boob squeeze in the back of a theatre to this film.


That being said, here are some examples of first date movies that would classify as a bad idea:

Bad Movies

Stay away from movies involving tragedy!  These would be examples of BAD choices:

1. Holocaust Movies – The Diary of Anne Frank would be horrible for a first date.

2. Sob Stories – Boys Don’t Cry – I made the mistake of taking a girl on a first date to this film. She just cried all the way home on the subway. Terrible. Great movie though!

3. Adventure  Movies – Spaghetti Western Series from Clint Eastwood – just bad choices overall, and he is too good looking. You would just diminish by comparison to him.


Stay away from Erotica or Porn! These are just too over the top for a first date and will surely be relationship ending.

Choose wisely and have fun!

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Hidden Dangers of Popular Date Ideas

Starting out a new relationship is always an iffy affair. The first four or five dates are the most important in setting the tone for a long-term relationship. You need to reach that delicate balance of showing that you got things together, which may take a bit of truth stretching, while at the same time being yourself and totally honest. Unfortunately, a lot of popular date ideas have hidden dangers that a lot of people are unaware of. In an effort to help, this article will outline a few example first date ideas and what things to avoid doing. So prepared, you can come across as a mature, sophisticated person who has it all together.

Putting Parks

This would seem like a harmless activity. I mean, what could possibly go wrong with tapping a ball with a golf club? This should be nothing more than an easy walk through of a few holes on a tiny set of fake putting greens. Even this potential snuggle fest venue can have dangers around every corner.

Whatever you do, do not compete with her, even jokingly!! Make sure you keep it all in fun! If you get trapped into a competition, you will lose, even if you win at getting the ball in the hole, you will never get a chance at the nineteenth hole as it were. And before you go making any “ball” or “in the hole” jokes, make sure your date is the sort who would appreciate them.

Playing with Frisbees

Taking your new sweetheart to the park for a picnic and some Frisbee is always a lot of fun, but you have to keep some things in mind. If your paramour is not that adept at catching Frisbees, you can embarrass her. Make sure that you lob in some easy ones to start to assess her skill level. If she can handle it then you can increase the intensity a bit. Just make sure that you never toss it so hard that you run the risk of breaking a nose if she misses it. That will definitely put a damper on the rest of the day's entertainment!

On another note, stay away from windy locations like the beach so you do not lose control of it. Before you know it, your disc will have flown out to sea, or hit some quick-tempered jerk’s radio. Then you have a fight on your hands. Better to set up in a nice clearing or sheltered area someplace away from the crowds. Besides, you do not need her comparing you to all the muscle bound he-man types that frequent beaches in the first place!

Going To See A Film

The movie date has been a staple for years now, and for good reason. The right selection of movie and snacks will put your girl in a relaxed and erotic mood. Plus, you don’t have to maintain a conversation during the film, and after the film, you can talk about the movie. Just make sure you avoid the next couple of pitfalls.

Just the price alone is likely to be the first shocker. If you have not been to a movie in a while, you may be surprised. Twenty five dollars plus another twenty for snacks is not unusual for a first line movie. If you think that regular movies have gotten expensive, then you have not been to an IMAX theater yet.

Second, the choice of movie is all important. If it’s a new movie, make sure you reserve tickets by phone. Plus, I’d advise against any movie where Brad Pitt takes his shirt off. Sure, she’ll be turned on by him, but when you’re back at her place, and you take your shirt off, she’ll compare, and you won’t come out on top (or bottom for that matter).

Romantic movies are the best choice to turn her on. Romantic comedies usually work. Avoid non-romantic themes. Clint Eastwood was a handsome rugged dude in his day, but most of his movies were anything but romantic. They would leave your lady cold at the end of the night!


Concerts

Make sure that the band is to her taste! It’s no good taking her to see a reggae show if that’s what you’re into, but she’s not. Give her what she prefers. However, no matter what concert you take her to, you should be aware that you are HER security. If there’s moshing, or rowdy drunks, you have to be her protection. Wear steel-toed boots if it’s a thrash metal show, just to be safe.

On another note, if you have been to a loud performance, both of you will be slightly deaf afterwards. Be conscious of the fact that both of you might be talking really loud and will attract attention. Also, make sure that you really understood what she says correctly. If you think she said "I want sex", make sure that is what she said before you take liberties.

And remember that if you have been dancing up a storm all night, you will likely be stinky with sweat afterwards. Make sure that you take a second to wash and apply some deodorant before you leave the club!

   
Amusement Park

It would seem like bringing a woman to the amusement park would have all sorts of benefits. The best rides of course are the ones where she grabs you, either in fear, or just to keep from falling. There is an opportunity to play some fun games, ride some fun rides, and munch on goodies. Being skillful enough to win her a stuffed toy as a reminder of the day is always good too. However, you have to remember that they don’t just give those stuffed animals away. You don’t want to spend a fortune and all night trying to get a ring on the bottle. If it doesn’t happen right away, just move on. Trust me.

Be wary of the food as well. Eating is not the smartest thing to do at a carnival. Often there are scant washing facilities, and you have been touching dirty ride safety bars all night. Make sure you take a hand sanitizer with you and eat sparingly. Who knows how well the kitchen help keep clean. As well, the possibility of someone vomiting as they get off a ride is a mental picture that will fizzle any kissing possibilities.

One last thing. Many rides take pictures of you at the scariest point. Figure out where that is before you get on the ride and try to look nonchalant at that point. After all, you may want to by the picture later.

A Night of Video Games At An Arcade

If your date is into gaming, it can be a fun pastime for both of you. But as with many women these days, do not be surprised if she cleans your clock. On that note, you should never boast ahead of time about how great you are at gaming in general. Besides, losing is okay. It gives you the perfect excuse to take her back there some other day for a re-match.


Starbucks

Even the seemingly safest date possible – the coffee date – has some problems you have to anticipate. The biggest is that if the date is going well, you might end up having more caffeine than you are used to in your system. Before you know it, you’ll be talking a mile a minute, shaking your legs like crazy, and have really bugged-out and intense eyes. Do not drink more than a couple of cups. At that point, swing over to something decaffeinated, like a juice or water or herbal tea. You will look more worldly, and she would be more likely to admire you because you are seemingly health conscious.




Well, that’s about all the advice I can give you for those seven kinds of dates. I hope these examples give you an idea of what to do if you are planning something different. The trick is, anticipate, anticipate, anticipate!!! Imagine the worst and then figure out how to avoid each negative situation that you can come up with. You’ll look like you’re a together sort of fellow, and that can only help your chances at getting her to actually say “I want sex”, and not “separate checks”.


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Transsexuals

As a transsexual person, finding love is not easy. We are such a small population demographic that it is difficult to find someone who gets you. I now understand from first hand experience that transsexual people in smaller centers often lead a lonely, despondent life.  For this reason, and pretty much for this reason alone, transsexual people are usually drawn to large urban centers.
My first adventure in online relationships was with AOL chat several years ago. The very first time I entered a chat-room I was mesmerized, I thought, “this is fantastic, what a great way to meet people”. It only took me two or three months to realize what I was exposing myself to. Many of the people that I met where just there to take advantage of other people. I think I heard every scam in the world in my time using AOL chat. What a huge disappointment!
 I was living in a small rural community when I first found AOL. I do not have mainstream sexual preferences, and it was having no luck finding someone of a compatible nature in my community. You cannot imagine how lonely I was! There was nobody in my community that I could relate to. I was becoming increasingly depressed. When I found AOL chat, it seemed to me that it was the answer to my prayers. Finally, a chance to meet someone that I had something in common with. I was willing to move anywhere for that.
I chatted with hundreds and even traveled to meet some people in person, but for the longest time I couldn't seem to find anyone online who seem to be real, or that I felt was compatible with. At one point I was sure that I had found the one but I soon found out there’s a thin line between reality and fantasy.
It seems that many people online pad the truth about who they are or what they do. Since you are at the end of a wire, nobody knows who you really are, so it is pretty safe to lie. It can bring out the best and the worst in a person. There is no retribution for misbehavior or giving false information to another person. You can play games with peoples feelings, hurt people and even play sadistic games with them for your own pleasure. You can even manipulate the innocent emotions of others who have not yet discovered what a real snake pit some online chat-rooms are. Then after you have screwed with their emotions you can vanish into thin air and then just pop up again later using a different name.
Online romance can be just so hurtful, some of the people on these chat-rooms can make you feel like you're a nobody, not good for anything and that just maybe you deserve to be alone. They can hurt you down to your soul if you give them half a chance. Falling for someone and being hurt will often leave you questioning yourself at the most basic levels. Often you wonder if their is something wrong with you, when usually it is the other person who is at fault.
You really need to use your head when you're seeking romance online. I had the experience of being approached by quite a few people who acted like they were really interested in me. We seemed to have a lot in common and we would chat endlessly, sometimes for weeks. The funny thing was they would never ask to take the conversation to the phone, and of course I never insisted that we converse by phone, instead I would let these chats go on and on. I wasted a lot of time chatting with these people.
I finally realized that I was being made a fool of way too often. So as not to waste any more time in conversations that were going absolutely nowhere I decided to set some limits. I decided that from now on I would chat online for no more than a week, and then if we both found each other interesting I would insist they call me on the phone or I could call them.
WOW! Houdini had nothing on these people, most of them mysteriously vanished without a trace, seems they all could  afford computers, high speed modems and expensive internet service but couldn't seem to afford a phone. To my way of thinking, real people use telephones, talking on the phone is an essential component of the process of getting to know someone. If they have issues talking to you on the phone, then they are either deceitful, or else they have anxiety issues that will likely get in the way later anyway!
Chatting by phone is also a good way to find out whether or not you can trust the person that sends you little smiley faces. Until then you really have no reason to trust them, nor should you invest your heart. Phone access is a two way street when it comes to getting to know each other. If you can never call this person at home, only get busy signals or talking to voice mail, or worse yet, find yourself at the giving end of a pager, then you should be smelling a rat!

It does not take a rocket scientist to figure out that I was pretty down on chat room relationships.A friend of mine pointed out that I was using the wrong type of online place to find my future partner. He suggested that I actually join an online dating site, one specializing in transvestites, as it would already have its membership pre-filtered for me. He also said that because you have to pay to join, it tends to filter our the looky-loos and most people are serious about starting a relationship with someone. My God, I almost flipped! I had no idea that such a thing even existed. he gave me the domain name of a site that listed and rated hundreds of specialty dating sites, including a page of transsexual dating sites.

Well let me tell you had it worked out. I tried signed up to a couple of transvestite dating sites and found the person of my dreams. If online dating sites can work for me, they can work for anybody!

Bon Chance!

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Movies As A First Date

Going on a movie for a first date is almost a no-brainer. It will not put you into any dreamy romantic category as the guy who gave me the coolest and most unique date ever, but on the other hand, it is sort of expected, and usually a pretty safe bet. Certainly it is less stressful to you than say – asking her to go sky diving, or zip lining, or some other off the wall thing.

Movies stifle conversation while they are playing, which can be a mixed blessing to both of you. The pressure to keep the conversation moving is reduced, so you can both relax a bit more and just get used to being near each other. Plus, when the movie is over, it’ll give you a chance to talk about the film, if nothing else is coming to mind. One strange phenomena about first date movies is that bad movies are actually better conversation stimulator s than good ones. A bad movie can provide the grist for several animated discussions on the movie night itself, and on other days.

After selecting the movie to see, you will likely what some sort of snack and refreshment. Although it is hard to do, try to stay away from popcorn and soda pop. Most guys eat popcorn like pigs, and that will not leave a lasting good impression. Soda will make you belch, which is also not a something your date will brag about later. Better to go with a candied treat like M&M's or Smarties. For a drink, consider iced tea or fruit juice. If nothing else, these latter choices will show that you are not an inside the box thinker.

Good Movies

Some movies are great for a first date, while others are not so good. First off, ask her what she likes. If she has her heart set on a particular movie, then you pretty much have to go with that, especially if it is a chick flick. However, if she just has preferred genres of movies, you will have some ability to influence the outcome. Thrillers are okay, but you want a movie that is not just shoot-em-up. James Bond types of movies tend to be a better selection than Bruce Lee types.

Three examples of good first date movies would have been:

1. Comedy –Adam Sandler has an amazing ability to pull off comedy with romantic interest in most of his movies.

2. Drama – Tom Hanks usually puts in a good performance with usually tasteful plot lines.

3. Romance – Princess bride – The perfect first date movie. Got me my first boob squeeze in the back of a theatre to this film.


That being said, here are some examples of first date movies that would classify as a bad idea:

Bad Movies

Stay away from anything where someone dies at the end (unless of course the person that dies is the villain)!  These would be examples of BAD choices:

1. Holocaust Movies – Schindler’s List – Nothing involving the holocaust, if possible. Human tragedy tends to fizzle make-out opportunities.

2. Sob Stories – Million Dollar Baby – Eastwood and Swank did an amazing job in this movie. I loved it. It is exactly what not to take a date on, as it only ends in sadness.

3. Adventure  Movies – Spaghetti Western Series from Clint Eastwood – just bad choices overall, and he is too good looking. You would just diminish by comparison to him.


What ever you do, stay away from Porn!

Choose wisely and have fun!

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