Dating Chinese

When both people in a potential dating relationship are Chinese, they are well aware of Chinese cultural norms. However, if one partner is not Chinese, explanations about Chinese culture and its impact on dating are necessary.

Here are some insights on the Chinese way of thinking:

Chinese women are typically a little coy and expect the man to make the first move. In Chinese culture the men still chase the women, and women expect them to lead when it comes to starting a relationship.

If you are contacted by a Chinese woman on a online dating site always be respectful and polite.

In the Chinese culture, you are expected to disclose information about everything, from type of car and size of house, down to the state of your health, your position at work and the amount of money that you make. It is all considered to contribute to your status in society, so you need to be willing to discuss it. Not wanting discussing it seems very strange to Chinese people and they will think you are trying to hide something.

Most women in China marry at an early age and Chinese men find it a little strange for women to be in their thirty's and still single. Chinese women over the age of 30 who find themselves still unattached are likely to welcome any opportunity to form a lasting relationship. Women who have been divorced or widowed are often considered invisible on the dating scene and will usually welcome the attention.

In the Chinese culture, your education level is part of your status, and as such, people expect you to be up front with the level attained. They greatly respect people with advanced degrees.

In the Chinese culture, women are taught to see security in financial stability. They will tend to marry success rather than looks.

A big majority of Chinese people who have a good command of the English language are usually well educated. Those who are not probably have never had the opportunity to learn, so a little patience will make it a little easier for them to learn, remember patience is a virtue.

Since religion was banned in China under the reign of chairman Mao, many people in China do not have a practicing religion.

In Chinese society, the man is expected to pay for everything on a date, this includes dinner, movies, theatre, snacks and, if needed, taxis.

Chinese people usually date with the idea of starting a long term relationship. Dating for fun or for casual sex is not normally something that they do.

Many Chinese people will avoid drinking alcohol, so it would be wise not to suggest stopping for a drink on your first date, instead it would be a better idea to suggest lunch or maybe a coffee or tea.

Do not have any expectations of mainland Chinese people showing up for a date on time. It is not in the culture..

Try not be offended if he or she wants to help you tidy up your things or perform some kind of maintenance around your home, mowing the lawn, doing dishes maybe even helping you paint, it means that he or she really likes you and wants to do something nice to help you out.

Chinese people are very attentive to the sick, and are also very health conscious. Expect them to be vocal about things they see you do that they do not think is healthy.

Chinese are non-demonstrative in their love. They may be bonkers over you, but they would never be so crude as to actually say that out loud. Understatement of affection is the name of the game. They show affection more by actions than words.

Being aware of some of the major differences in the culture between the western world and China will help you to be a little more understanding towards each other and of each others expectations.

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Can You Believe This Mind Set?

This story originates from my first three years in the working world. I was working in a small town store that sold stereos, television sets, pianos, organs, and appliances. I had been married quite recently and could not afford to do much after work. The staff was quite small, only five people on the upstairs floor and two in the service shop downstairs. The service people seldom interacted with staff socially. There was the boss of course, another salesperson besides me, and two bookkeepers in the back office. One of the bookkeepers was in her 70's. She was an aged spinster and the boss kept her employed for sentimental reasons. She had been with the store for 35 years after all. The other bookkeeper, Cathy, was barely twenty. This was her first full time job. (She did a lot of the routine work under the direction of the more senior staff member. She did most of the routine work under the direction of the older lady. The senior person dealt with paying invoices from our wholesalers, and in payment delinquencies from customers.|She did most of the details of bookkeeping under the day to day direction of the older lady. They had a severe personality clash between them, but most of the time that did not affect their work. The younger girl just loved to catch the older ladies mistakes, and often I heard all about the latest fiasco over lunch.

On Monday morning when we first arrived, we tended to BS about our weekend happenings.  Being recently married had put a serious cash crunch on my entry level wages, so all we could afford to do was hang out with our friends playing cards or just talking. I was told the old lady spent most of her Saturday night and Sunday after church drinking scotch. The other sales associate was a woman around 55 years old who spent most of her weekend cooking for her family and extended family. We managed to kibbutz around in the morning almost every day because the boss was usually a no-show until about 10:00 AM

The last person on staff was the junior bookkeeper Cathy. She was young, but looking for a husband. Her methodology was to frequent the local bars every weekend with her girl pack looking to see if she could have fun, and ultimately snag herself a husband. Because all of the rest of us could only talk about the same stuff we talked about last week, invariably, the conversation on Monday tended to center on Cathy's latest exploits. She had a way of dramatizing the mundane, so if nothing else, her stories were more interesting than – 'I cooked dinner for my family'. Cathy would never win a beauty contest, but she would never come in dead last either. She was a bit heavier that some of her friends but not so much that you would even remark on it. Unfortunately she fixated on her slight weight issue as being the bane of her existence and why she was not having any luck landing her prince charming. From my point of view, her attitude was what was hindering her most. The following story best illustrates this.

One particular Monday, Cathy was talking about her Saturday night. As usual, she was out with her usual crowd of girlfriends. She was whining that her Saturday evening was a bust because she did not get to dance at all. She mentioned that this guy had come up to their table just as they got there, and had asked one of her friends to dance and was turned down. He then proceeded to ask each of the other girls, who all turned him down. Over the next hour, she had watched him ask other girls in the club, who all turned him down, so he left. She then laughed at how stupid he was to be so persistent.  I asked her why it was stupid, because from my point of view it looked like he just wanted to dance.

She said that once one of the girls at her table had turned him down, it was pointless to ask the others because there is no way they could say yes to him. If they had, it would be admitting to the other girls that they were not as good as they were. Since she had my curiosity piqued, I asked her for more of an explanation.  She said that after being turned down by all the women at our table, he then proceeded to ask other women at other tables, and they of course had to turn him down too. When I inquired why, she said that all the other girls would not want to look second best to the ones who had already refused him. So they had to refuse him too. Otherwise, they would have pretty much admitted to being second best to the other women in the room.

In a desperate attempt at that point in my life to try to fathom the meanderings of the female mind, I asked a couple of other questions. I asked her what was wrong with him. Did he look like an ape or something? She said that he was actually quite good looking, and she had been hoping for weeks that he would ask her to dance. Then I asked why it was the first girl had turned him down. She said it was just because they did not even have a chance to take of their coats yet or order drinks or anything. So I asked Cathy if the guy would have asked her first, would she have danced with him. She said yes because she had been hoping that he would have asked her for weeks.  My eyes were now crossing trying to follow this distorted logic.

So I summarized my understanding up to that point in time. I said that you knew your girlfriend had turned him down just because she was tired, and that you had wanted him to ask you to dance for weeks. She said that was right. But he did ask you and you turned him down, and then had a crappy Saturday night because nobody else asked you to dance. She said yes, thats just the way it goes sometimes.

By now, I was feeling that I should show her the errors of her ways, so I asked a few more questions. I asked her to think like a guy for a bit and tell me which of the people she would have approached first if she was a guy. She said that she supposed she would have approached the same girl that he did, because she was cuter, even though her personality was not as good as hers (Cathy's). So I asked if she had ever talked to the guy, and she indicated that she had not. So I asked her how was it that he would know she had a better personality if he she had never given him the opportunity to talk to her when he asked her to dance? She looked at me like I was mentally deficient or something. “Weren't you listening to me? I already told you why I could not dance with him!”, she said.  At that point I dropped the conversation. It was clearly pointless.

A few weeks later, Cathy was moping around on Monday. I talked to her a bit and got her to open up as to what her problem was. She said that the guy she really liked had shown up with a new girlfriend on his arm, and they danced all night. She said that the girl was not that good looking, and was not even a good dancer. I suggested that it was a shame that she had screwed up her chance to be with him. So again, she looked at me like I had the IQ of a slug and said, “I already told you that it was impossible for me to say yes to him that night!”  About a year later, Cathy was moping around the office for a couple of months. One of her girlfriends told me that they guy she really liked had married that girl. She still had not said boo to the guy. The only thing that she had ever said to him was to refuse to dance with him.

I did not stay at that store much longer. I found a much better paying job with a more stable future elsewhere in the city. I trained the guy who replaced me and we became passing friends. He stayed on for ten years. When he left, Cathy was still working at the store, still all alone, and still searching the bars for Mr. Right.

I guess she never did learn!


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If A Movie Is Your First Date

Movie dates are often a good choice because it gives you time to think about what to do after the movie. I mean, after all you have to be flexible depending on how well each of you enjoyed the movie.

The worst thing about a movie date can also be it's best thing. It is hard to talk during a movie. In fact it is frowned upon. So that is bad. On the other hand, it gives you both a chance to get used to being around each other without a lot of pressure on anyone's part to keep the conversation flowing. So that is good. When the movie is over, it now gives you a mutual topic of conversation, especially if the movie was mediocre or bad. Truly great movies are hard to have a stimulating conversation about until you have had a few hours to reflect on them. If you see a classic great movie together, however, it can be talked about because both of you have seen it before and have already reflected somewhat. Interestingly enough, the worse the movie is, the more it will stimulate conversation.

After selecting the movie to see, you will likely what some sort of snack and refreshment. Although it is hard to do, try to stay away from popcorn and soda pop. Most guys eat popcorn like pigs, and that will not leave a lasting good impression. Soda will make you belch, which is also not a something your date will brag about later. Better to go with a candied treat like M&M's or Smarties. For a drink, consider iced tea or fruit juice. If nothing else, these latter choices will show that you are not an inside the box thinker.

Good Movies

Even within a genre, there are good and bad choices. You are looking for something that mixes romance into the plot-line, so selection is important. Hopefully you are taking her to a Cineplex type of theater that gives you a lot of on the spot choices. This means that before the date, you should have done some research into what movies are playing at the venue where you are taking her. Be prepared!

Three examples of good first date movies would have been:

1. Comedy –Adam Sandler has an amazing ability to pull off comedy with romantic interest in most of his movies.

2. Drama – Some of the Victor Hugo classics like Les Miserables, The Hunchback of Notre Dame, or Tale of Two Cities. I do not know how he does it, but the movies always seem to have an optimistic and upbeat ending, even while the subject matter is based on tragedy and misery by and large.

3. Romance – Princess bride – The perfect first date movie. Got me my first boob squeeze in the back of a theatre to this film.


That being said, here are some examples of first date movies that would classify as a bad idea:

Bad Movies

Stay away from movies involving tragedy!  These would be examples of BAD choices:

1. Holocaust Movies – The Diary of Anne Frank would be horrible for a first date.

2. Sob Stories – Boys Don’t Cry – I made the mistake of taking a girl on a first date to this film. She just cried all the way home on the subway. Terrible. Great movie though!

3. Adventure  Movies – Spaghetti Western Series from Clint Eastwood – just bad choices overall, and he is too good looking. You would just diminish by comparison to him.


Stay away from Erotica or Porn! These are just too over the top for a first date and will surely be relationship ending.

Choose wisely and have fun!

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Dating A Granola Child

The modern day hippy is often referred to as either a neo-hippy (who are very much like the late 60's hippy in dress, views, and outlooks) or else they can be a granola-hippy (those who are not really into political activism, but are into green eco friendly vegetarian life styles). There are two other types of modern hippies, but they are not really hippies at all, just hippie wannabes. In my personal experience, one of the best kinds of women to date when you’re looking for a special someone is a modern neo-hippy or granola-hippy  chick. Modern neo-hippies or granola-hippies are not likely going to be into bra-burning or large scale sit-ins on capital hill, but they are more educated about natural lifestyles, natural health foods, and a rejection of materialistic goods. On a political front, they are less likely to protest war, but more likely to protest big oil and wasteful consumption ruining the environment.

Females from both of these groups will tend to be similar in a few ways. They wear flowing sundresses or jeans and may even wear flowers in their hair. (They wear sandals and love to dance around campfires|They will wear flip-flops, or simple sandals, and go barefoot as often as practicable. They are uninhibited and thing nothing of dancing around a campfire on the beach, or just relaxing, looking at the stars, and contemplating the infinite|These ladies prefer being barefoot, and when footwear is necessary, flip-flops or simple sandals are preferred. Running shoes are for dress up occasions. They never obsess about putting on a couple of pounds (although that seldom happens because of the vegetarian eating practices that most of them follow), they are comfortable in their skin, and in general are just very liberal minded about sex and relationships in general. You can find them working with animals, volunteering to help young children, lecturing on healthy cooking, working in health food or herbalist stores, and giving lectures on eco-friendly living.  They smoke grass and drink organic beer. In short, they’re awesome!


Where to Meet

To gain access to these exciting breed of women, you naturally have to go where they tend to hang out.

Drum circles – This is where a lot of hippy chicks go to dance and play their drums. Fill up an empty vitamin bottle with dry macaroni, and you’ve got a shaker to play. Mingle!

Yoga class – A clean life style demands regular workouts, and the simple mat exercises are most appealing to them. Find a class and put your matt at the back of the room for the most enjoyment as you improve your health.

Indie music festivals – Burning Man or Rainbow festivals are good. But you just need to look at the flyers at the local 420 shop.

Organic markets/health food stores – Over packaging is a no-no to these ladies, so look for health food stores that sell in bulk, rather than pre-packaged. Also, organic farmers markets draw these ladies like flies. When desperate, they will utilize the gluten free aisles or organics section of grocery stores, but they are more likely to frequent specialty shops over large commercial food stores.

Lectures on environmental issues – these ladies are all about green living, low carbon impact lifestyles and organic foods. They seldom miss these kinds of lectures.


Pros to Dating Hippy Chicks

Hippy chicks are generally less materialistic and like to do more outdoorsy things like camping or hiking. What that means is that they are not a heavy drain on your pocket book. And if you ever get serious enough to marry her, although she will likely be as happy with just living with you, these thrifty attitudes will carry into the long-term relationship. You can live the rest of your life on a budget and never feel cheap about it! On top of that, if you are just getting by with the job you have, they really do not care. They are into loving you for what you are, not what you have.

They are not big on makeup. They may go for natural flower fragrances, rub a red flower petal on their cheeks as a blusher, and bite their lips a bit to make them redder. Tallow would be used as a lip-gloss or skin cream. The only area where they may concede to heavily manufactured products is sunscreens. What you see is what you get. They will look pretty much the same in the morning, or after a shower. If you like what you see, you get to see exactly that all the time. One of the great things is that they are willing to stop and smell the roses, both figuratively and literally. These are not the types of women that you usually run into, who are driven to outdo their friends in everything.

And the two biggest advantages to dating a hippy chick: she’ll probably be into tantric sex, and rarely wear a bra.


Cons to Dating Hippy Chicks

Not wearing a bra can be a drawback as well if she had more than her share of estrogen and thus is well endowed. Gravity is not a friend to large breasted women, but at least you can see what you are going to get up front ;-).

Additionally, hippy chicks usually have shaving issues. She might have a hairy downstairs, or legs, or armpits. Some guys like that though, and even if she does have “winter bush”, it’s the treat under the bush that’s important. However, if she’s against deodorants and perfumes, you could be dealing with a B.O. problem. That’s usually a deal-breaker. You have to like how your lady smells.

And the two biggest problems with dating a hippy chick: she’ll smoke all your grass, and she’s better at Frisbee than you (ego thing).


So go get them and happy hunting!

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Hidden Dangers of Popular Date Ideas

Starting out a new relationship is always an iffy affair. The first four or five dates are the most important in setting the tone for a long-term relationship. You need to reach that delicate balance of showing that you got things together, which may take a bit of truth stretching, while at the same time being yourself and totally honest. Unfortunately, a lot of popular date ideas have hidden dangers that a lot of people are unaware of. In an effort to help, this article will outline a few example first date ideas and what things to avoid doing. So prepared, you can come across as a mature, sophisticated person who has it all together.

Putting Parks

This would seem like a harmless activity. I mean, what could possibly go wrong with tapping a ball with a golf club? This should be nothing more than an easy walk through of a few holes on a tiny set of fake putting greens. Even this potential snuggle fest venue can have dangers around every corner.

Whatever you do, do not compete with her, even jokingly!! Make sure you keep it all in fun! If you get trapped into a competition, you will lose, even if you win at getting the ball in the hole, you will never get a chance at the nineteenth hole as it were. And before you go making any “ball” or “in the hole” jokes, make sure your date is the sort who would appreciate them.

Playing with Frisbees

Taking your new sweetheart to the park for a picnic and some Frisbee is always a lot of fun, but you have to keep some things in mind. If your paramour is not that adept at catching Frisbees, you can embarrass her. Make sure that you lob in some easy ones to start to assess her skill level. If she can handle it then you can increase the intensity a bit. Just make sure that you never toss it so hard that you run the risk of breaking a nose if she misses it. That will definitely put a damper on the rest of the day's entertainment!

On another note, stay away from windy locations like the beach so you do not lose control of it. Before you know it, your disc will have flown out to sea, or hit some quick-tempered jerk’s radio. Then you have a fight on your hands. Better to set up in a nice clearing or sheltered area someplace away from the crowds. Besides, you do not need her comparing you to all the muscle bound he-man types that frequent beaches in the first place!

Going To See A Film

The movie date has been a staple for years now, and for good reason. The right selection of movie and snacks will put your girl in a relaxed and erotic mood. Plus, you don’t have to maintain a conversation during the film, and after the film, you can talk about the movie. Just make sure you avoid the next couple of pitfalls.

Just the price alone is likely to be the first shocker. If you have not been to a movie in a while, you may be surprised. Twenty five dollars plus another twenty for snacks is not unusual for a first line movie. If you think that regular movies have gotten expensive, then you have not been to an IMAX theater yet.

Second, the choice of movie is all important. If it’s a new movie, make sure you reserve tickets by phone. Plus, I’d advise against any movie where Brad Pitt takes his shirt off. Sure, she’ll be turned on by him, but when you’re back at her place, and you take your shirt off, she’ll compare, and you won’t come out on top (or bottom for that matter).

Romantic movies are the best choice to turn her on. Romantic comedies usually work. Avoid non-romantic themes. Clint Eastwood was a handsome rugged dude in his day, but most of his movies were anything but romantic. They would leave your lady cold at the end of the night!


Concerts

Make sure that the band is to her taste! It’s no good taking her to see a reggae show if that’s what you’re into, but she’s not. Give her what she prefers. However, no matter what concert you take her to, you should be aware that you are HER security. If there’s moshing, or rowdy drunks, you have to be her protection. Wear steel-toed boots if it’s a thrash metal show, just to be safe.

On another note, if you have been to a loud performance, both of you will be slightly deaf afterwards. Be conscious of the fact that both of you might be talking really loud and will attract attention. Also, make sure that you really understood what she says correctly. If you think she said "I want sex", make sure that is what she said before you take liberties.

And remember that if you have been dancing up a storm all night, you will likely be stinky with sweat afterwards. Make sure that you take a second to wash and apply some deodorant before you leave the club!

   
Amusement Park

It would seem like bringing a woman to the amusement park would have all sorts of benefits. The best rides of course are the ones where she grabs you, either in fear, or just to keep from falling. There is an opportunity to play some fun games, ride some fun rides, and munch on goodies. Being skillful enough to win her a stuffed toy as a reminder of the day is always good too. However, you have to remember that they don’t just give those stuffed animals away. You don’t want to spend a fortune and all night trying to get a ring on the bottle. If it doesn’t happen right away, just move on. Trust me.

Be wary of the food as well. Eating is not the smartest thing to do at a carnival. Often there are scant washing facilities, and you have been touching dirty ride safety bars all night. Make sure you take a hand sanitizer with you and eat sparingly. Who knows how well the kitchen help keep clean. As well, the possibility of someone vomiting as they get off a ride is a mental picture that will fizzle any kissing possibilities.

One last thing. Many rides take pictures of you at the scariest point. Figure out where that is before you get on the ride and try to look nonchalant at that point. After all, you may want to by the picture later.

A Night of Video Games At An Arcade

If your date is into gaming, it can be a fun pastime for both of you. But as with many women these days, do not be surprised if she cleans your clock. On that note, you should never boast ahead of time about how great you are at gaming in general. Besides, losing is okay. It gives you the perfect excuse to take her back there some other day for a re-match.


Starbucks

Even the seemingly safest date possible – the coffee date – has some problems you have to anticipate. The biggest is that if the date is going well, you might end up having more caffeine than you are used to in your system. Before you know it, you’ll be talking a mile a minute, shaking your legs like crazy, and have really bugged-out and intense eyes. Do not drink more than a couple of cups. At that point, swing over to something decaffeinated, like a juice or water or herbal tea. You will look more worldly, and she would be more likely to admire you because you are seemingly health conscious.




Well, that’s about all the advice I can give you for those seven kinds of dates. I hope these examples give you an idea of what to do if you are planning something different. The trick is, anticipate, anticipate, anticipate!!! Imagine the worst and then figure out how to avoid each negative situation that you can come up with. You’ll look like you’re a together sort of fellow, and that can only help your chances at getting her to actually say “I want sex”, and not “separate checks”.


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Transsexuals

As a transsexual person, finding love is not easy. We are such a small population demographic that it is difficult to find someone who gets you. I now understand from first hand experience that transsexual people in smaller centers often lead a lonely, despondent life.  For this reason, and pretty much for this reason alone, transsexual people are usually drawn to large urban centers.
My first adventure in online relationships was with AOL chat several years ago. The very first time I entered a chat-room I was mesmerized, I thought, “this is fantastic, what a great way to meet people”. It only took me two or three months to realize what I was exposing myself to. Many of the people that I met where just there to take advantage of other people. I think I heard every scam in the world in my time using AOL chat. What a huge disappointment!
 I was living in a small rural community when I first found AOL. I do not have mainstream sexual preferences, and it was having no luck finding someone of a compatible nature in my community. You cannot imagine how lonely I was! There was nobody in my community that I could relate to. I was becoming increasingly depressed. When I found AOL chat, it seemed to me that it was the answer to my prayers. Finally, a chance to meet someone that I had something in common with. I was willing to move anywhere for that.
I chatted with hundreds and even traveled to meet some people in person, but for the longest time I couldn't seem to find anyone online who seem to be real, or that I felt was compatible with. At one point I was sure that I had found the one but I soon found out there’s a thin line between reality and fantasy.
It seems that many people online pad the truth about who they are or what they do. Since you are at the end of a wire, nobody knows who you really are, so it is pretty safe to lie. It can bring out the best and the worst in a person. There is no retribution for misbehavior or giving false information to another person. You can play games with peoples feelings, hurt people and even play sadistic games with them for your own pleasure. You can even manipulate the innocent emotions of others who have not yet discovered what a real snake pit some online chat-rooms are. Then after you have screwed with their emotions you can vanish into thin air and then just pop up again later using a different name.
Online romance can be just so hurtful, some of the people on these chat-rooms can make you feel like you're a nobody, not good for anything and that just maybe you deserve to be alone. They can hurt you down to your soul if you give them half a chance. Falling for someone and being hurt will often leave you questioning yourself at the most basic levels. Often you wonder if their is something wrong with you, when usually it is the other person who is at fault.
You really need to use your head when you're seeking romance online. I had the experience of being approached by quite a few people who acted like they were really interested in me. We seemed to have a lot in common and we would chat endlessly, sometimes for weeks. The funny thing was they would never ask to take the conversation to the phone, and of course I never insisted that we converse by phone, instead I would let these chats go on and on. I wasted a lot of time chatting with these people.
I finally realized that I was being made a fool of way too often. So as not to waste any more time in conversations that were going absolutely nowhere I decided to set some limits. I decided that from now on I would chat online for no more than a week, and then if we both found each other interesting I would insist they call me on the phone or I could call them.
WOW! Houdini had nothing on these people, most of them mysteriously vanished without a trace, seems they all could  afford computers, high speed modems and expensive internet service but couldn't seem to afford a phone. To my way of thinking, real people use telephones, talking on the phone is an essential component of the process of getting to know someone. If they have issues talking to you on the phone, then they are either deceitful, or else they have anxiety issues that will likely get in the way later anyway!
Chatting by phone is also a good way to find out whether or not you can trust the person that sends you little smiley faces. Until then you really have no reason to trust them, nor should you invest your heart. Phone access is a two way street when it comes to getting to know each other. If you can never call this person at home, only get busy signals or talking to voice mail, or worse yet, find yourself at the giving end of a pager, then you should be smelling a rat!

It does not take a rocket scientist to figure out that I was pretty down on chat room relationships.A friend of mine pointed out that I was using the wrong type of online place to find my future partner. He suggested that I actually join an online dating site, one specializing in transvestites, as it would already have its membership pre-filtered for me. He also said that because you have to pay to join, it tends to filter our the looky-loos and most people are serious about starting a relationship with someone. My God, I almost flipped! I had no idea that such a thing even existed. he gave me the domain name of a site that listed and rated hundreds of specialty dating sites, including a page of transsexual dating sites.

Well let me tell you had it worked out. I tried signed up to a couple of transvestite dating sites and found the person of my dreams. If online dating sites can work for me, they can work for anybody!

Bon Chance!

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Beach Date

Everyone likes to go to the beach. It’s fun and social, and there’s nothing but good vibes everywhere you look. People are playing with their kids, and playing Frisbee, relaxing and talking. The beach becomes an even better place to be if you have the new object of your desires there with you. If you and your date decide on a beach venue, there are some simple preparations that will ensure that the trip is a success and remains a favorite place from then on

First off, there are five things you MUST bring to the beach on your date. If you forget any for these, your day will be off to a lousy start that can only get worse. You need to bring a big blanket, sunscreen, water, flip-flops, and towels. The sand will be so hot under the sun, and the sun will burn you so bad without sun screen that your date will be over in the first 30 minutes or faster. With the basics now covered, we can discuss other details to consider.

Pros to the Beach Date

One of the coolest things about the beach is that you can check out your babe in bathing suit. Not much can be hidden behind one of those. On top of that, it hardly costs anything other than the price of gas. Of course it you have wrap around dark sunglasses, you can discretely check out all the other hot bodies as well.

Another great thing about the beach date is swimming and frolicking with your date. It is sometimes a bit difficult getting in those first few intimate touches, but losing your balance and grabbing each other for support while playing in the water is a great ice breaker in that area. Similarly, there is something about swimming together in deeper water and taking a water treading break that requires being close and personal. Speaking of, applying her sunscreen is another way to establish instant physical intimacy.

The beach date is also great because you can stay and watch the sunset and have a picnic supper with her. This is very romantic, and if you have played your cards right all day, will lead to much more intimacy.

Cons to the Beach Date

The hardest thing to anticipate when you’re going to the beach date are the weather variables. Check the forecast before you leave so that you have an idea of what might be coming. One thing about the beach is that it is usually a bit cooler during the day because of on shore breezes, and a bit cooler at night because of off shore breezes. It never hurts to take a sweater or sweat shirt, and even a pair of jeans.

You should also check any pollution warnings for the beaches in your area, and in some parts of the country, you would need to verify if there is any increased risk of jellyfish stings.

Nothing is as big a pain as a loud, obnoxious group of people close by. You know the type, rude, foul mouthed, and just show offs. Often pushing their weight around because they need to feel big for some reason. If you run into something like that, then just move up the beach a way to where it is quieter and more private. Keep mobile!

Then you have the body builder types that parade around the beach showing off their bodies. These guys always ruin it for more average guys with long hair, or a small belly. When these guys walk by, distract her by pointing out a bird in the distance. That should work the first few times.

If things go really well, she might want to stay on the beach after everyone else has left and get frisky. Not a good idea, despite what Hollywood tells you. Here’s why. Sex on the beach always involves sand. It’s coarse, and not what you want when you’re getting “slippery”. Plus, it’s not private, and gets cold fast once the sun goes down. Bring her home to bed – trust me!

Hope this helps, and remember the sunscreen!

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Movies As A First Date

Going on a movie for a first date is almost a no-brainer. It will not put you into any dreamy romantic category as the guy who gave me the coolest and most unique date ever, but on the other hand, it is sort of expected, and usually a pretty safe bet. Certainly it is less stressful to you than say – asking her to go sky diving, or zip lining, or some other off the wall thing.

Movies stifle conversation while they are playing, which can be a mixed blessing to both of you. The pressure to keep the conversation moving is reduced, so you can both relax a bit more and just get used to being near each other. Plus, when the movie is over, it’ll give you a chance to talk about the film, if nothing else is coming to mind. One strange phenomena about first date movies is that bad movies are actually better conversation stimulator s than good ones. A bad movie can provide the grist for several animated discussions on the movie night itself, and on other days.

After selecting the movie to see, you will likely what some sort of snack and refreshment. Although it is hard to do, try to stay away from popcorn and soda pop. Most guys eat popcorn like pigs, and that will not leave a lasting good impression. Soda will make you belch, which is also not a something your date will brag about later. Better to go with a candied treat like M&M's or Smarties. For a drink, consider iced tea or fruit juice. If nothing else, these latter choices will show that you are not an inside the box thinker.

Good Movies

Some movies are great for a first date, while others are not so good. First off, ask her what she likes. If she has her heart set on a particular movie, then you pretty much have to go with that, especially if it is a chick flick. However, if she just has preferred genres of movies, you will have some ability to influence the outcome. Thrillers are okay, but you want a movie that is not just shoot-em-up. James Bond types of movies tend to be a better selection than Bruce Lee types.

Three examples of good first date movies would have been:

1. Comedy –Adam Sandler has an amazing ability to pull off comedy with romantic interest in most of his movies.

2. Drama – Tom Hanks usually puts in a good performance with usually tasteful plot lines.

3. Romance – Princess bride – The perfect first date movie. Got me my first boob squeeze in the back of a theatre to this film.


That being said, here are some examples of first date movies that would classify as a bad idea:

Bad Movies

Stay away from anything where someone dies at the end (unless of course the person that dies is the villain)!  These would be examples of BAD choices:

1. Holocaust Movies – Schindler’s List – Nothing involving the holocaust, if possible. Human tragedy tends to fizzle make-out opportunities.

2. Sob Stories – Million Dollar Baby – Eastwood and Swank did an amazing job in this movie. I loved it. It is exactly what not to take a date on, as it only ends in sadness.

3. Adventure  Movies – Spaghetti Western Series from Clint Eastwood – just bad choices overall, and he is too good looking. You would just diminish by comparison to him.


What ever you do, stay away from Porn!

Choose wisely and have fun!

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