Dating Chinese

When both people in a potential dating relationship are Chinese, they are well aware of Chinese cultural norms. However, if one partner is not Chinese, explanations about Chinese culture and its impact on dating are necessary.

Here are some insights on the Chinese way of thinking:

Chinese women are typically a little coy and expect the man to make the first move. In Chinese culture the men still chase the women, and women expect them to lead when it comes to starting a relationship.

If you are contacted by a Chinese woman on a online dating site always be respectful and polite.

In the Chinese culture, you are expected to disclose information about everything, from type of car and size of house, down to the state of your health, your position at work and the amount of money that you make. It is all considered to contribute to your status in society, so you need to be willing to discuss it. Not wanting discussing it seems very strange to Chinese people and they will think you are trying to hide something.

Most women in China marry at an early age and Chinese men find it a little strange for women to be in their thirty's and still single. Chinese women over the age of 30 who find themselves still unattached are likely to welcome any opportunity to form a lasting relationship. Women who have been divorced or widowed are often considered invisible on the dating scene and will usually welcome the attention.

In the Chinese culture, your education level is part of your status, and as such, people expect you to be up front with the level attained. They greatly respect people with advanced degrees.

In the Chinese culture, women are taught to see security in financial stability. They will tend to marry success rather than looks.

A big majority of Chinese people who have a good command of the English language are usually well educated. Those who are not probably have never had the opportunity to learn, so a little patience will make it a little easier for them to learn, remember patience is a virtue.

Since religion was banned in China under the reign of chairman Mao, many people in China do not have a practicing religion.

In Chinese society, the man is expected to pay for everything on a date, this includes dinner, movies, theatre, snacks and, if needed, taxis.

Chinese people usually date with the idea of starting a long term relationship. Dating for fun or for casual sex is not normally something that they do.

Many Chinese people will avoid drinking alcohol, so it would be wise not to suggest stopping for a drink on your first date, instead it would be a better idea to suggest lunch or maybe a coffee or tea.

Do not have any expectations of mainland Chinese people showing up for a date on time. It is not in the culture..

Try not be offended if he or she wants to help you tidy up your things or perform some kind of maintenance around your home, mowing the lawn, doing dishes maybe even helping you paint, it means that he or she really likes you and wants to do something nice to help you out.

Chinese people are very attentive to the sick, and are also very health conscious. Expect them to be vocal about things they see you do that they do not think is healthy.

Chinese are non-demonstrative in their love. They may be bonkers over you, but they would never be so crude as to actually say that out loud. Understatement of affection is the name of the game. They show affection more by actions than words.

Being aware of some of the major differences in the culture between the western world and China will help you to be a little more understanding towards each other and of each others expectations.

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The Sleepover Kit

At some point when dating a woman, there comes a time when you will be sleeping over. Even if sleeping over is an irregular affair, it is smart to have a kit prepared just in case. Personally, when I go on my first date with someone, I have a sleepover kit stashed in the trunk of my car just in case. All the goodies that I list hear can easily fit into a backpack or small tennis bag. This can be easily stored in the trunk of your car, and hopefully find a permanent home in her closet or under her bed at some later date. From the examples that I suggest below, you should be able to cobble up a suitable kit for yourself and have it ready for your next big date!

Foot Wear

If your girl lives in an apartment, she likely has little control of the temperature. If the building is old, then chances are that the floors are freezing. Pick up some cheapo slippers so you have something to slip on if you have to hit the john in the middle of the night. Nothing is worse than going back to bed with cold feet.

Protection

For your own protection, and hers, these little babies are essential. But make sure you get the right size. I cursed them for years before I realized that I was bigger around than average. The regular size were downright painful to wear. Variety in type is also a good idea.  There are a lot of fun shapes and sizes to play around with. If you cannot find them at your local drug store, then try a sex shop. Make a game of it and see which ones you both like best. Even the ones that are not short listed can be interesting to try out!

Sweatsuit

Along the same lines of thought as the footwear, you might want to also pack a warmup suit in your sleepover kit. Her landlord might control the temperature, and turn it waaay down at night to save money. In my mind, better too hot and remove something than too cold and freeze. Bring layers of clothes – it never hurts.

Toothbrush

This is a no brainer. If you are like me you abhor using someone else's toothbrush, and do not like using another brand of toothpaste either. Buy the travel size toothpaste tube to save room.

Candles

You just cannot beat the affect that candles have on a woman. Whether you use them over a meal, to watch TV, or in the bedroom, they are a great mood setter! 

When Harry Met Sally

This classic movie never fails to get any woman into the romantic mood. So keep this handy, dandy little gem around for the next time you are not in the mood to go out, the video stores are closed and there is nothing good on the 85 or so cable TV channels available to you. Plus, it bears multiple viewings and is still good.


All-Purpose Romantic Card With Gift Card Inside

This is one of the best get out of jail free ideas that you will ever come across Get a blank card in the romance section of a card rack; something with a nice picture that signifies a romantic situation. You tape a Victoria Secret gift card inside (or one from her favorite store). Now draw a big heart or something, and write in a romantic comment like, “On a day like today, I am always reminded how much I love you”. Make sure that the sentiment does not refer to any specific event. Then some fateful day will surely come when you have forgotten some important anniversary, or birthday or something. You go to your sleepover bag, pull out the card, and give it to her. Presto – your ass is no longer grass! Tell your friends.

Ear Plugs

Everyone snores sometimes, even hot chicks like the one you are dating. If you cannot sleep, just pull the plugs from your bag and put them on. Just make sure that you never use them when she is trying to talk to you!

Blind Fold For Sleeping

Nothing is worse than trying to sleep late when her room is catching the early morning sun. Use the sleep mask and count your blessings.

A Change Of Clothes

An emergency change of clothes is essential as well. I mean, after all, if you do not have spare clothes and something happens, you will have to dress in drag.

Sade CD

Sometimes musical tastes differ, and this is probably a good thing for the most part. However, when it comes time to put on something to listen to during sex, if her tastes run exclusively to Celine Dion, it can be difficult to stay the course. It does not matter what your taste in music, Sade will put both of you in the right groove.

Books

It is always good to have some reading material if she has to leave you alone for a while. It removes the urge to snoop through her things. At the same time, you will look like someone who is more well rounded than if you just watched TV all the time. Stay away from nudie books. Most women hate that. If you can stomach it, try bringing and reading the latest Nicholas Sparks book.


So, there you go. A great idea, easy to make, and invaluable.



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Transsexuals

As a transsexual person, finding love is not easy. We are such a small population demographic that it is difficult to find someone who gets you. I now understand from first hand experience that transsexual people in smaller centers often lead a lonely, despondent life.  For this reason, and pretty much for this reason alone, transsexual people are usually drawn to large urban centers.
My first adventure in online relationships was with AOL chat several years ago. The very first time I entered a chat-room I was mesmerized, I thought, “this is fantastic, what a great way to meet people”. It only took me two or three months to realize what I was exposing myself to. Many of the people that I met where just there to take advantage of other people. I think I heard every scam in the world in my time using AOL chat. What a huge disappointment!
 I was living in a small rural community when I first found AOL. I do not have mainstream sexual preferences, and it was having no luck finding someone of a compatible nature in my community. You cannot imagine how lonely I was! There was nobody in my community that I could relate to. I was becoming increasingly depressed. When I found AOL chat, it seemed to me that it was the answer to my prayers. Finally, a chance to meet someone that I had something in common with. I was willing to move anywhere for that.
I chatted with hundreds and even traveled to meet some people in person, but for the longest time I couldn't seem to find anyone online who seem to be real, or that I felt was compatible with. At one point I was sure that I had found the one but I soon found out there’s a thin line between reality and fantasy.
It seems that many people online pad the truth about who they are or what they do. Since you are at the end of a wire, nobody knows who you really are, so it is pretty safe to lie. It can bring out the best and the worst in a person. There is no retribution for misbehavior or giving false information to another person. You can play games with peoples feelings, hurt people and even play sadistic games with them for your own pleasure. You can even manipulate the innocent emotions of others who have not yet discovered what a real snake pit some online chat-rooms are. Then after you have screwed with their emotions you can vanish into thin air and then just pop up again later using a different name.
Online romance can be just so hurtful, some of the people on these chat-rooms can make you feel like you're a nobody, not good for anything and that just maybe you deserve to be alone. They can hurt you down to your soul if you give them half a chance. Falling for someone and being hurt will often leave you questioning yourself at the most basic levels. Often you wonder if their is something wrong with you, when usually it is the other person who is at fault.
You really need to use your head when you're seeking romance online. I had the experience of being approached by quite a few people who acted like they were really interested in me. We seemed to have a lot in common and we would chat endlessly, sometimes for weeks. The funny thing was they would never ask to take the conversation to the phone, and of course I never insisted that we converse by phone, instead I would let these chats go on and on. I wasted a lot of time chatting with these people.
I finally realized that I was being made a fool of way too often. So as not to waste any more time in conversations that were going absolutely nowhere I decided to set some limits. I decided that from now on I would chat online for no more than a week, and then if we both found each other interesting I would insist they call me on the phone or I could call them.
WOW! Houdini had nothing on these people, most of them mysteriously vanished without a trace, seems they all could  afford computers, high speed modems and expensive internet service but couldn't seem to afford a phone. To my way of thinking, real people use telephones, talking on the phone is an essential component of the process of getting to know someone. If they have issues talking to you on the phone, then they are either deceitful, or else they have anxiety issues that will likely get in the way later anyway!
Chatting by phone is also a good way to find out whether or not you can trust the person that sends you little smiley faces. Until then you really have no reason to trust them, nor should you invest your heart. Phone access is a two way street when it comes to getting to know each other. If you can never call this person at home, only get busy signals or talking to voice mail, or worse yet, find yourself at the giving end of a pager, then you should be smelling a rat!

It does not take a rocket scientist to figure out that I was pretty down on chat room relationships.A friend of mine pointed out that I was using the wrong type of online place to find my future partner. He suggested that I actually join an online dating site, one specializing in transvestites, as it would already have its membership pre-filtered for me. He also said that because you have to pay to join, it tends to filter our the looky-loos and most people are serious about starting a relationship with someone. My God, I almost flipped! I had no idea that such a thing even existed. he gave me the domain name of a site that listed and rated hundreds of specialty dating sites, including a page of transsexual dating sites.

Well let me tell you had it worked out. I tried signed up to a couple of transvestite dating sites and found the person of my dreams. If online dating sites can work for me, they can work for anybody!

Bon Chance!

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Beach Date

Everyone likes to go to the beach. It’s fun and social, and there’s nothing but good vibes everywhere you look. People are playing with their kids, and playing Frisbee, relaxing and talking. The beach becomes an even better place to be if you have the new object of your desires there with you. If you and your date decide on a beach venue, there are some simple preparations that will ensure that the trip is a success and remains a favorite place from then on

First off, there are five things you MUST bring to the beach on your date. If you forget any for these, your day will be off to a lousy start that can only get worse. You need to bring a big blanket, sunscreen, water, flip-flops, and towels. The sand will be so hot under the sun, and the sun will burn you so bad without sun screen that your date will be over in the first 30 minutes or faster. With the basics now covered, we can discuss other details to consider.

Pros to the Beach Date

One of the coolest things about the beach is that you can check out your babe in bathing suit. Not much can be hidden behind one of those. On top of that, it hardly costs anything other than the price of gas. Of course it you have wrap around dark sunglasses, you can discretely check out all the other hot bodies as well.

Another great thing about the beach date is swimming and frolicking with your date. It is sometimes a bit difficult getting in those first few intimate touches, but losing your balance and grabbing each other for support while playing in the water is a great ice breaker in that area. Similarly, there is something about swimming together in deeper water and taking a water treading break that requires being close and personal. Speaking of, applying her sunscreen is another way to establish instant physical intimacy.

The beach date is also great because you can stay and watch the sunset and have a picnic supper with her. This is very romantic, and if you have played your cards right all day, will lead to much more intimacy.

Cons to the Beach Date

The hardest thing to anticipate when you’re going to the beach date are the weather variables. Check the forecast before you leave so that you have an idea of what might be coming. One thing about the beach is that it is usually a bit cooler during the day because of on shore breezes, and a bit cooler at night because of off shore breezes. It never hurts to take a sweater or sweat shirt, and even a pair of jeans.

You should also check any pollution warnings for the beaches in your area, and in some parts of the country, you would need to verify if there is any increased risk of jellyfish stings.

Nothing is as big a pain as a loud, obnoxious group of people close by. You know the type, rude, foul mouthed, and just show offs. Often pushing their weight around because they need to feel big for some reason. If you run into something like that, then just move up the beach a way to where it is quieter and more private. Keep mobile!

Then you have the body builder types that parade around the beach showing off their bodies. These guys always ruin it for more average guys with long hair, or a small belly. When these guys walk by, distract her by pointing out a bird in the distance. That should work the first few times.

If things go really well, she might want to stay on the beach after everyone else has left and get frisky. Not a good idea, despite what Hollywood tells you. Here’s why. Sex on the beach always involves sand. It’s coarse, and not what you want when you’re getting “slippery”. Plus, it’s not private, and gets cold fast once the sun goes down. Bring her home to bed – trust me!

Hope this helps, and remember the sunscreen!

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