Hidden Dangers of Popular Date Ideas

Starting out a new relationship is always an iffy affair. The first four or five dates are the most important in setting the tone for a long-term relationship. You need to reach that delicate balance of showing that you got things together, which may take a bit of truth stretching, while at the same time being yourself and totally honest. Unfortunately, a lot of popular date ideas have hidden dangers that a lot of people are unaware of. In an effort to help, this article will outline a few example first date ideas and what things to avoid doing. So prepared, you can come across as a mature, sophisticated person who has it all together.

Putting Parks

This would seem like a harmless activity. I mean, what could possibly go wrong with tapping a ball with a golf club? This should be nothing more than an easy walk through of a few holes on a tiny set of fake putting greens. Even this potential snuggle fest venue can have dangers around every corner.

Whatever you do, do not compete with her, even jokingly!! Make sure you keep it all in fun! If you get trapped into a competition, you will lose, even if you win at getting the ball in the hole, you will never get a chance at the nineteenth hole as it were. And before you go making any “ball” or “in the hole” jokes, make sure your date is the sort who would appreciate them.

Playing with Frisbees

Taking your new sweetheart to the park for a picnic and some Frisbee is always a lot of fun, but you have to keep some things in mind. If your paramour is not that adept at catching Frisbees, you can embarrass her. Make sure that you lob in some easy ones to start to assess her skill level. If she can handle it then you can increase the intensity a bit. Just make sure that you never toss it so hard that you run the risk of breaking a nose if she misses it. That will definitely put a damper on the rest of the day's entertainment!

On another note, stay away from windy locations like the beach so you do not lose control of it. Before you know it, your disc will have flown out to sea, or hit some quick-tempered jerk’s radio. Then you have a fight on your hands. Better to set up in a nice clearing or sheltered area someplace away from the crowds. Besides, you do not need her comparing you to all the muscle bound he-man types that frequent beaches in the first place!

Going To See A Film

The movie date has been a staple for years now, and for good reason. The right selection of movie and snacks will put your girl in a relaxed and erotic mood. Plus, you don’t have to maintain a conversation during the film, and after the film, you can talk about the movie. Just make sure you avoid the next couple of pitfalls.

Just the price alone is likely to be the first shocker. If you have not been to a movie in a while, you may be surprised. Twenty five dollars plus another twenty for snacks is not unusual for a first line movie. If you think that regular movies have gotten expensive, then you have not been to an IMAX theater yet.

Second, the choice of movie is all important. If it’s a new movie, make sure you reserve tickets by phone. Plus, I’d advise against any movie where Brad Pitt takes his shirt off. Sure, she’ll be turned on by him, but when you’re back at her place, and you take your shirt off, she’ll compare, and you won’t come out on top (or bottom for that matter).

Romantic movies are the best choice to turn her on. Romantic comedies usually work. Avoid non-romantic themes. Clint Eastwood was a handsome rugged dude in his day, but most of his movies were anything but romantic. They would leave your lady cold at the end of the night!


Concerts

Make sure that the band is to her taste! It’s no good taking her to see a reggae show if that’s what you’re into, but she’s not. Give her what she prefers. However, no matter what concert you take her to, you should be aware that you are HER security. If there’s moshing, or rowdy drunks, you have to be her protection. Wear steel-toed boots if it’s a thrash metal show, just to be safe.

On another note, if you have been to a loud performance, both of you will be slightly deaf afterwards. Be conscious of the fact that both of you might be talking really loud and will attract attention. Also, make sure that you really understood what she says correctly. If you think she said "I want sex", make sure that is what she said before you take liberties.

And remember that if you have been dancing up a storm all night, you will likely be stinky with sweat afterwards. Make sure that you take a second to wash and apply some deodorant before you leave the club!

   
Amusement Park

It would seem like bringing a woman to the amusement park would have all sorts of benefits. The best rides of course are the ones where she grabs you, either in fear, or just to keep from falling. There is an opportunity to play some fun games, ride some fun rides, and munch on goodies. Being skillful enough to win her a stuffed toy as a reminder of the day is always good too. However, you have to remember that they don’t just give those stuffed animals away. You don’t want to spend a fortune and all night trying to get a ring on the bottle. If it doesn’t happen right away, just move on. Trust me.

Be wary of the food as well. Eating is not the smartest thing to do at a carnival. Often there are scant washing facilities, and you have been touching dirty ride safety bars all night. Make sure you take a hand sanitizer with you and eat sparingly. Who knows how well the kitchen help keep clean. As well, the possibility of someone vomiting as they get off a ride is a mental picture that will fizzle any kissing possibilities.

One last thing. Many rides take pictures of you at the scariest point. Figure out where that is before you get on the ride and try to look nonchalant at that point. After all, you may want to by the picture later.

A Night of Video Games At An Arcade

If your date is into gaming, it can be a fun pastime for both of you. But as with many women these days, do not be surprised if she cleans your clock. On that note, you should never boast ahead of time about how great you are at gaming in general. Besides, losing is okay. It gives you the perfect excuse to take her back there some other day for a re-match.


Starbucks

Even the seemingly safest date possible – the coffee date – has some problems you have to anticipate. The biggest is that if the date is going well, you might end up having more caffeine than you are used to in your system. Before you know it, you’ll be talking a mile a minute, shaking your legs like crazy, and have really bugged-out and intense eyes. Do not drink more than a couple of cups. At that point, swing over to something decaffeinated, like a juice or water or herbal tea. You will look more worldly, and she would be more likely to admire you because you are seemingly health conscious.




Well, that’s about all the advice I can give you for those seven kinds of dates. I hope these examples give you an idea of what to do if you are planning something different. The trick is, anticipate, anticipate, anticipate!!! Imagine the worst and then figure out how to avoid each negative situation that you can come up with. You’ll look like you’re a together sort of fellow, and that can only help your chances at getting her to actually say “I want sex”, and not “separate checks”.


For other relationship advice,  you should take a look here as well:
Advice For Men When Dating

Transsexuals

As a transsexual person, finding love is not easy. We are such a small population demographic that it is difficult to find someone who gets you. I now understand from first hand experience that transsexual people in smaller centers often lead a lonely, despondent life.  For this reason, and pretty much for this reason alone, transsexual people are usually drawn to large urban centers.
My first adventure in online relationships was with AOL chat several years ago. The very first time I entered a chat-room I was mesmerized, I thought, “this is fantastic, what a great way to meet people”. It only took me two or three months to realize what I was exposing myself to. Many of the people that I met where just there to take advantage of other people. I think I heard every scam in the world in my time using AOL chat. What a huge disappointment!
 I was living in a small rural community when I first found AOL. I do not have mainstream sexual preferences, and it was having no luck finding someone of a compatible nature in my community. You cannot imagine how lonely I was! There was nobody in my community that I could relate to. I was becoming increasingly depressed. When I found AOL chat, it seemed to me that it was the answer to my prayers. Finally, a chance to meet someone that I had something in common with. I was willing to move anywhere for that.
I chatted with hundreds and even traveled to meet some people in person, but for the longest time I couldn't seem to find anyone online who seem to be real, or that I felt was compatible with. At one point I was sure that I had found the one but I soon found out there’s a thin line between reality and fantasy.
It seems that many people online pad the truth about who they are or what they do. Since you are at the end of a wire, nobody knows who you really are, so it is pretty safe to lie. It can bring out the best and the worst in a person. There is no retribution for misbehavior or giving false information to another person. You can play games with peoples feelings, hurt people and even play sadistic games with them for your own pleasure. You can even manipulate the innocent emotions of others who have not yet discovered what a real snake pit some online chat-rooms are. Then after you have screwed with their emotions you can vanish into thin air and then just pop up again later using a different name.
Online romance can be just so hurtful, some of the people on these chat-rooms can make you feel like you're a nobody, not good for anything and that just maybe you deserve to be alone. They can hurt you down to your soul if you give them half a chance. Falling for someone and being hurt will often leave you questioning yourself at the most basic levels. Often you wonder if their is something wrong with you, when usually it is the other person who is at fault.
You really need to use your head when you're seeking romance online. I had the experience of being approached by quite a few people who acted like they were really interested in me. We seemed to have a lot in common and we would chat endlessly, sometimes for weeks. The funny thing was they would never ask to take the conversation to the phone, and of course I never insisted that we converse by phone, instead I would let these chats go on and on. I wasted a lot of time chatting with these people.
I finally realized that I was being made a fool of way too often. So as not to waste any more time in conversations that were going absolutely nowhere I decided to set some limits. I decided that from now on I would chat online for no more than a week, and then if we both found each other interesting I would insist they call me on the phone or I could call them.
WOW! Houdini had nothing on these people, most of them mysteriously vanished without a trace, seems they all could  afford computers, high speed modems and expensive internet service but couldn't seem to afford a phone. To my way of thinking, real people use telephones, talking on the phone is an essential component of the process of getting to know someone. If they have issues talking to you on the phone, then they are either deceitful, or else they have anxiety issues that will likely get in the way later anyway!
Chatting by phone is also a good way to find out whether or not you can trust the person that sends you little smiley faces. Until then you really have no reason to trust them, nor should you invest your heart. Phone access is a two way street when it comes to getting to know each other. If you can never call this person at home, only get busy signals or talking to voice mail, or worse yet, find yourself at the giving end of a pager, then you should be smelling a rat!

It does not take a rocket scientist to figure out that I was pretty down on chat room relationships.A friend of mine pointed out that I was using the wrong type of online place to find my future partner. He suggested that I actually join an online dating site, one specializing in transvestites, as it would already have its membership pre-filtered for me. He also said that because you have to pay to join, it tends to filter our the looky-loos and most people are serious about starting a relationship with someone. My God, I almost flipped! I had no idea that such a thing even existed. he gave me the domain name of a site that listed and rated hundreds of specialty dating sites, including a page of transsexual dating sites.

Well let me tell you had it worked out. I tried signed up to a couple of transvestite dating sites and found the person of my dreams. If online dating sites can work for me, they can work for anybody!

Bon Chance!

Transsexual Dating

Setting Up a Single Dad

This is the time when many women have been thinking about their parents.

You have likely already made purchases for your parents, but is there something else you could do? 

Lets look outside of your immediate family and broaden your sights to include your immediate circle of friends.

Do you know a single dad that is so devoted to his kids and job that he does not spend much time on his personal life? You know the type. Someone that is only a friend, but is truly a great guy and would be a stellar husband for some lucky female.

So would you like to be play Yenta for him and find him a match?

But you are out of girlfriends, what can you do now?

So how about this as the perfect gift for your friend?

A situation where he can select the next person to go out with!
A gift that gives him an opportunity to communicate with lots of women who may want to be a mother to his children!
How about a way to relieve his loneliness without having to pick up a phone and listen to fake 'sexy women' on some chat line!

All of these issues are addressed by signing him up to an online dating site.

Unfortunately, most men really suck at communicating and expressing their wishes.  They are also not good at letting the great person that they really are show publicly.

Enter you!

The best present for your single male friend would be to purchase him a membership to an online dating site.  For a personal touch, you enter their personal ad for them. Set up the profile, select a few of those great pictures that you have of him enjoying himself with friends, and then write up profile text that would make any woman dash out the door in her hurry to meet this guy.

It takes a woman to understand the needs of, and reach the heart of another woman after all.

Do your friend a favor.

Spend the time to give him the gift of companionship for a lifetime.

It is a gift that keeps giving forever!

For a solid starting point, check out this link for ideas of the best online dating sites to select from:
Online Dating Sites